Posted by _li_bra_gal_
Hi! The exact same thing happened to me. My bf is cancer too. (I was looking for answers to this behavior too and when i was reading ur story i was like EXACTLY)
It happened to me almost exactly the same but at that time we been dating exclusively for 3 mths, and he was away for 3 weeks and didn’t reply to my text at all for 3-4 days after he left. so i was super worried, then one night i texted him again and again and call him again and again and he didn’t respond. In the morning, he just texted me “hey goodmorning! How are you blabla” like back to normal/ sweet text........ and i was like??? So at that time i was feeling that ive had enough of it cos I don’t feel he cares abt me and i was caring too much abt him where he doesn’t even think of me even the slightest. Makes me feel rejected, not appreciated and taken for granted. So i told him im ending it, then we got to conversation On the phone, and exactly like what ur man told u, “i told u i was away” “if u r worried u should’ve texted me days ago and not wait till now” etc.
We talked, both of us actually didn’t wanna end it, so we come to solution that we text when we wanna text and don’t hv to hesitate and shy to double text.
But anyhow, even if you get further in relationship with this guy, like me, until now (more than 9mths) this behavior will come and go, i mean he will do it again. He doesn’t reply fast, some times doesn't reply to your text for a day or so.
I guess from reading a lot and from talking to him myself, its Bcos cancer are super sensitive and how they think. When he is in stress or dealing with smth, he may go to his shell. So he might not communicate as much with u and usual. And whatis, they think is “ok she knows im away, i wanna enjoy my time here, I don’t hv to text her again and I don’t wanna be bothered by her if I don’t respond immediately”
Me myself still don’t get how they can ignore text from ppl they care abt and just go on with life without thinking of how we would feel. Cos I cannot do that. But i guess it is what it is, so if u wanna keep up with this kind of reoccurring behavior go ahead, but if u feel u can’t deal with this kind of communication in relationship it’s also ur call.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
You’re overreacting. He acts like nothing happened because nothing did happen, he texted you when he got back and he had time.
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Posted by MissAllisa
Uhm after i confronted him we didnt talk for like 8 months. So now he’s back and i’m like 🤔. I’m not pissed of or anything since it’s been ages im just curious to why he wants to meet up again after not talking for so long.Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
You’re overreacting. He acts like nothing happened because nothing did happen, he texted you when he got back and he had time.click to expand