Capricorn Female Just Dumped Me...Is there Hope?

Hey everyone, I am a libra male who was dating a Capricorn female for about 16 months until tonight when she broke it
Hey everyone,

I am a libra male who was dating a Capricorn female for about 16 months until tonight when she broke it off with me through twenty minutes of tears. I honestly believed and still believe that this girl is my soul mate, and my heart is broken.

What is shocking about her decision is the fact that two weeks ago everything was fine between us and I thought we were both very happy in the relationship. Sure we had been fighting a little more than usual lately, but nothing that I thought would warrant her dumping me on the spot like this. I told her tonight that I know I am far from perfect, and not the easy person to deal with all the time, and that I was willing to do whatever is necessary to make this thing work, but so far she seems not to want to hear it. I've read from many sources that once a Capricorn cuts you out of their heart, you are done for good. I pray this isn't true.

Little background: No cheating between either one of us that I am aware of, her biggest complaints of me are my committment to doing things I am going to say I do and my timeliness.

If any Capricorns could please give me advice what they think the highest probability strategy I can take to get this Capricorn female back into my life, I would be greatly obliged and appreciative. The last thing she said to me tonight was that she would call me in 3 weeks. I don't know if this is of any significance. Please be honest in your opinions.
To crazy_lost_cappy:

My birthday is October 5th, hers is December 27th.
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So you capricorn females think the best bet for me is to not call her and let her call me if/when she is ready? And then when we talk is it best to let her know how I feel right upfront, or should I just act reserved and okay with the situation?
crazy_lost_cappy, her year is 1990 and her birthplace is New Jersey. Not exactly sure about the birthtime unfortunately. In terms iof her planetary sure of her planetary positions or her exact time of birth unfortunately. Guess I'm out of luck? Thanks for all of your help regardless.
male
Steve I am a capricorn male but I have been in this situation with a Capricorn woman before so I may be able to offer you a man's perspective on it.

This is what you need to do. Are you ready? Nothing. You do nothing. Don't try to talk to her, don't try to write to her, and DON'T say you want to fix it.

Give her space. If you can do that. She will know you are listening and that is what woman want to think.

At the end of three weeks if she hasn't called you, give her a call and keep the conversation light hearted. When you meet up for coffee, if she brings up the relationship then apologise for what went wrong.

If you follow my advice, you stand a good chance at getting this woman back but maybe at the end of three weeks you will realize that she isn't the one for you.

It is possible to win a capricorn woman back, but it is not easy. It takes a strong and confident man to make it happen.



Response to CapGal about "20 minutes of tears":

We had been fighting more often recently, mainly I think because she felt I wasn't putting enough effort into the relationship, and in some ways my own life I believe (although she didn't say the second part). I showed up to meet her yesterday for coffee to discuss what has been going on with us lately and pull up next to her car to see her in tears already when I arrived. I spent the next 10 minutes letting her know that I was wrong to downplay her feelings as unreasonable, telling her that she is still the love of my life, and that I am willing to do what is neccessary to be a better man to her. (Her biggest complaints were the fact that I was always 5 minutes late to pick her up, my trouble making commitments, my families over involvement in my life, etc).

She responded to this that she felt like she was holding me back and that I need to focus on being the best I can be. To this I responded she was the best thing in my life and in no way is she a burden to me although I may have previously acted like it. She also mentioned that she can't stand the area we live in, and possibly wants to move away. She went on crying mostly saying how sorry she was, to which I responded she had nothing to feel sorry about, and that many of her complaints are valid. After the crying was done, she calmly said without tears that she will call me in 3 weeks and that she thinks this is for the best. I responded by asking her to please explain exactly the reason why she was breaking up with me, to which she really couldn't give a reason.

I am not sure where to go with this, except to say that I am truly devestated. I don't know if she secretely wants to date other people deep down, if she just needs time, if she really believes she is holding back, etc. I just don't know. What I do know is that I never loved another like I love her, and in someways I did take her love for granted, never thinking she would just break it off this quickly. (Literally 2 weeks ago we had much more laughter in our relationship than we did fights.) Who knows?
CapGal,

Okay, so you're saying you interperet it as she feels she is an uncommitted relationship and her effort and emotional attachment are no longer worth the effort. I understand. With this being said, if the guy truly wanted to be committed and be with you would you expect him to call you? Within what timeframe? Should he respect your space and let you call him, because you said you would call in 3 weeks? I really do want her in my life, and I want to prove to her that I am completely committed to her. How could I guy reassure of this, in your eyes? Thanks.
crazy_lost_cappy:

Good point, and I agree. At the same time I don't want to come across as a desperate, obsessed, weak man in her eyes. What is the optimal way to balance this? Wait 3 weeks for her to call and possibly give the impression that I am perfectly fine without her? Call 2 days later and come across as someone who doesn't understand that I really do need to change certain things in my life if I want her in it? Very thin line to balance in my point of view, no?
Thank you all for your insight. At least I feel that there is some hope here. I am going to take your advice and call her a week from now like you suggest, and I will let her know how I feel in a way that shows compassion yet strength on my part. I believe we are meant to be together. And the way she was hysterically crying last night, it tells me that her feelings for me haven't died out, there is just something about the situation that is intolerable for her. I hope I am right, and I hope she will allow me to be the type of man that she deserves in her life.
male
Capgal I see what you are saying. You being a Cap woman, you would know more than me about Cap woman. However I can't help but think his girlfriend wants her space from him. Maybe she is saying get lost, or maybe she needs time to figure stuff out. I think you could be giving steve bad advice because if his girlfriend isn't ready to reciprocate his feelings she won't. Steve could be in for a world of hurting if that happens.

But I guess he knows what he's doing so I wish him all the best.

Cap woman are like flowers. Each one must be handled with care.

:-)
UPDATE:

About 24 hours after she broke up with my I received this text from her (word for word exact transcript: "I know you hate me and that I am a horrible person but I just wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving. Can you please call me when you are home from your mothers? You don't have to respond to this text message now or at all."

As she was breaking up with me the other night I told her how it wasn't right of her to just do this to people with no warning or explanation, how this would devestate my life, etc. You know, the typical emotional responses. Do you Capricorns think that she sent me this message because she thinks I may be a wreck because of what happens, and she wants to reassure me that I shouldn't feel bad? (You know, as a caring friend type thing). Or do you think that she may regret what she has decided to do?

It seems strange because remember, originally she said she would call me in 3 weeks, now she wants me to call her basically 3-4 days from now. I must say I do have a certain sense of relief right now, but I don't want to get my hopes up interpereting this in the wrong way. What do you guys think? Does this have a higher probability of being a positive or negative sign in your opinion? And do you think I should text her to let her know I will call when I return to my house, or not let her know and still call? Thanks for any insight.
female
Posted by crazy_lost_cappy
Respecting people space is sooo overrated when it comes to love. Sometimes people want you to be in their space and they don??t even know it..


Really like it
female
" Do you Capricorns think that she sent me this message because she thinks I may be a wreck because of what happens, and she wants to reassure me that I shouldn't feel bad? "

No. Why is it so difficult to see ?

Just been there so many times so know it
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