Capricorn feeling resentment towards me?

I just realized my cap is kinda upset with me and I feel like I did nothign wrong.I;m Long distance with him.The thing i

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He may be a little turned off. Instead of asking him directly, or just leaving, it reads as you tried to manipulate him into caving in to what you wanted by guilt.

I do think it was a bit much to actually miss the plane on purpose and sleep in the airport for a day, just to see if he'd offer you to stay. Thats something he'll ponder in his mind, wondering if he can deal with those tactics from you long term.

What you wanted to do, which was stay, had nothing to do with what he wanted to do obviously. Instead of taking the hint you tried to force it.

I wouldnt say he handled it the best either.
I know one thing though, if many of us have times/dates in mind we like to keep the plans.
49 years old female from Small Town, USA
Mrs Aqua
OMG!!! Are you kidding??

Straight shooting here. I'm going to be bluntly honest with you on my impression of this. Hope you see it for what it is and not think I'm just being rude or trying to hurt your feelings.

First of all, the emotional outburst is a major turnoff. All the crying and stuff. I wouldn't want that. I don't know how to deal with it. Caps are extemely uncomfortable with all the emotional hooplah.

Then, he made an effort to get you to the plane on time. And you still missed it????!!!!! Puh-lease! If you called me that you missed your plane after I made an effort to get you there on time, I would have been irritated as hell!!!! Why is your lack of emotional maturity and lack of strength, supposed to affect me and put me out of my way? I don't care who you are, I would have left you there too. It would have been different if your plane was canceled, but you did this on purpose because you "weren't in the right state of mind?" RED FLAG on your emotional well being, sanity and maturity.

Cap motto is: Suck it up and do what you need to do. You didn't do that.

If that happened to me, I wouldn't contact you anymore either. I'd write you off because your actions showed you're not the kind of person I'd want to be with. Too emotional. Too clingy. Lack of maturity. Lack of planning. Needy. Manipulative. Indirect.

I know I don't know you. You're probably a very nice person. I'm not judging you, but based on what you said here, that's what my gut instinct is telling me. I apologize if this sounds rude and insensitive.

female
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If I were you I would just back off and STOP initiating texts or any kind of communication. Give the man some breathing room and time to process what went on. The more your text him and initiate anything the MORE you are setting yourself back.

It seems like the visit went VERY well, until you had that breakdown and threw a wrench in his plans.

He probably had a great time and wanted to just go home and process and begin to miss you and then you went and missed your flight after he dropped you off at the airport on time.

If he's still liking all your photos on Facebook then I'd say he isn't done yet but you need to stop initiating and asking him if he's upset. Let him stew for awhile or process or do whatever he needs to do.








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Thanks for the advice guys.I'm an Aquarius with Venus in cap.the thing Is i know he didn't want me to stay longer,that's why i didn't ask.and i feel like if he stops talking to me because of this situation he never liked me or loved me in the first place.it's one stupid incident of miscommunication.so if he truly likes me he'll contact me.
I'm just scared that what we have is over because everything has always been good.i can't stop thinking about him ,i can't sleep,eat ,its terrible
female
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Posted by kenyabobbydo
But he kept making me go,so i told him i'd miss my flight cause I don't feel like flying out tonight cause i'm all sad and I just need one more day. But he never said okay stay with me. so i was like ill just stay at a hotel or something and i have friends in LA so i might hang out with them. But i just said that cause I was kinda upset with him not offering to let me stay at his one more night.I wasnt gonna stay at a hotel or w.e. He just said you're getting on the plane.SO he drove me there and in an hour i text him telling him i've missed my flight ,i'll just sleep at the airport and wait for my next flight which is the next day in the afternoon. So i spent a whole day in the airport and it was terrible and he didnt even offer to pick me up,but i never asked cause i didn't wanna bug him.


Next time, you just need to come out and say it, "Can I stay at your place one more night?" Some people DO NOT catch things like that and it was most likely confusing, especially when he saw that you were VERY EMOTIONAL. He probably thought he was being strong for you by telling you "you're getting on the plane," and that it would be okay.


Then, you told him that you would stay the night at the airport.. well, he didn't get the hint that he should have asked you if you wanted to be picked up. I'm sorry that happened, but I don't think it means he doesn't care for you or love you. Some people don't realize these things unless they are hit over the head with a big, fat purse.

If you would have said, "Can you please pick me up?" then he probably would have obliged but you made the decision to stay at the airport and told him that, even though you didn't want to. You HOPED he would get the hint and sadly he didn't.

I know you're feeling hurt but I don't think it was his intention to hurt you, he just didn't get it.





49 years old female from Small Town, USA
Mrs Aqua
I'm curious. You said you've been in this relationship for 9 months. Obviously, it's long distance. So, how many times have you actually had face to face time with each other?
49 years old female from Small Town, USA
Mrs Aqua
I promise, I'm really not trying to give you a hard time. I'm just still thinking WTF?

You said this:
"the thing is i didn't miss my flight on purpose i wasn't in the state of mind to fly that day and i wasn't too emotional,i was just tearing up like a normal human being would if he/she would miss someone".

I still don't understand why you missed your plane. You were on time to make your plane. You said you didn't miss it on purpose, but I don't see how you missed it. I promise, he doesn't undertand it either.

Quit making him to look like the bad guy when this is all your own doing.

It's your fault you had to sleep in the airport not his. You said you would get a hotel, or spend time with friends. He did his duty and took you to the airport. An marker would have called a cab to take you.

I honestly don't think it's salvageable.

49 years old female from Small Town, USA
Mrs Aqua
Well, okay. Whether it's salvagable depends on how much time they've spent together and how much face to face contact they've had. It's a long way from Florida to Ohio, so its obviously long distance. My bets are that they haven't spent enough time together for him to be that invested. Plus she's got flying anxiety, and if they continue to see each other, she's going to have to fly again. Why I'm saying not salvageable.

On the other hand, if they have had lots of one on one time together. Or used to live in the same town, then perhaps he's invested enough to overlook all this.

I just have a feeling I'm right that they don't see each other much.


female
Ride or Die
Posted by FoxGlove

Yep, I agree -- I'm not real clear on why exactly the plane was missed either (and I'm an air sign, too ). I *think* what the original poster is saying, though, is that she missed the plane because of flight anxiety, NOT because she just wanted to spend another night with him. I also agree with a previous poster, he was trying to be strong and help you be stong too by encouraging you to get on that plane. I can guarantee you a Cap is thinking -- "you've paid good money for this ticket, why risk getting charged or having to take a bad seat/inconvenient time for another flight when you're right here at the airport, and can travel as planned?" Also, if your flight anxiety is that severe, he may not have realized.

I don't agree that it's can't be salvaged, though -- my spidey sense says he digs you -- you just have to be straight-forward from now on. And don't be afraid of being rejected -- the boy just spend all week kissin' on you, girl -- he likes you!


TRUE! He probably had NOOO idea her anxiety was that bad unless she said so. You really just have to SAY IT. I totally agree about the ticket price too. He probably thought he was helping her out and being a good guy. I would hate to waste money on another ticket when I'm right there, I'm sure he didn't get that and was equally confused.

If he's liking your pics on FB and commenting I don't think he's done(IMO). If he was turned off completely he would just ignore all that stuff or block you or delete. In a way, he is STILL communicating.

But please, give him some space here and don't text him, let him do that and give him time to think things over. This is a good time for you to think things over too! Work on being more direct and if you want something, just ask or say it in a nice way.





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