Posted by Metoo
^^^ My whole thing about is that would give him an ego boost and if he is an emotionally unavailable player type, this would be a signal to string her along more to keep her interest after all he likes the attention without having to take any true action.
I still vote Say nothing, live your life and play no games. Shrug and tell himm your busy. Why confirm something that makes you tou look vulnerable. Especially because sometimes flirting is just flirting. It doesnt always mean someone wants to be with you or take it to the next level. He may have always intended on just friendship but because you felt an attraction to him you saw it as leading to more.
Years ago, I slept with a guy who worked 4 floors down from me. He emailed all day and asked me to meet for coffee of breaks in the lobby, showed lots of flirty interest....then once we slept together he still contacted for a few days. Flirty yes, but more distan then less and less...then finally one day I emailed and asked him why the sudden difference...he said "Wait a minute, I am not your boyfriend"
Looking back he never said he really liked me or mentioned anything relationship like...flirting was just that and sex was meaningless, I took it as more...it meant nothing, LOL and it was over like that.
Posted by Chillgirl9001
Inana04, I'm not angry. Impatient and hurt feelings YES. Your right, he opted to leave that night which Im so glad he did, but I'm sure it was only because he had to get up really early that morning. You are right in that I'm not loosing anything more than a relationship with my phone app.
And yes, it was all in my head. I thought he wanted something with me but I was wrong and now I feel stupid. He did lead me on but I got sex and relationship and really wanting to be with someone confused and that's what Tiki pointed out. It doesn't mean that I have to be his friend outside of work. I have enough friends. I don't need to prove I can be a big girl by giving him "just" friendship". He doesn't want me, I don't want to be his friend, so that's it. Will I be nice and civil with him at work...absolutely. Will I move on and find someone who will be my friend and lover...hell yeah. And I know he doesn't want to be just friends either. He flirts with me hardcore and I know he wants to get in bed with me eventually I'm sure his reluctancy is from not wanting me to get emotionally attached to him if we do knock boots. But again, none of that is going to happen now. I am a person and I have to protect my feelings too.