StrawberryJam
@StrawberryJam
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Awwwwww ? Take care
Posted by MiscorpionIt's tough. He didn't reply and I knew he wouldn't.
Awwwwww ? Take care
He just liked a photo I posted also viewed stories. That was a photo taken by him.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
Posted by RamOnFire1His reasons was pretty much what I was acknowledging on my email to him. We were great he was really into me until our weekend away. I as really not myself cos I was falling for him but I couldn't communicate that I ended up pushing him away by being difficult and over reacting to many things. Even we also had MANy good moments on that trip he decided it was too much ups and downs just in 3 days.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
He said because of that he can't feel the deep connection (we had before) he can't see us working in long term. He said you are a really nice girl (while staring at my boobs) I could have see you for a few more times or few more months until I get caught up in work again. But that wouldn't be fair to you.
I didn't try to convince him I just thanked him for being respectful and honest during the break up and that I was falling and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared. I told him I will be sad but I will get over it. He had tears in his eyes and said me too
ohhhhh my gosh my Cappy pulled a similar card on me.... I never gave up on him or turned away....he meant too much and I wasn't going to take his final words without fighting and showing him I'm patient and right there through his busy times at work, his quiet recharging times etc it's taken some bumps in the road and both of us have needed to Balance each other at times...he grounds me when i get all emotional and i am slowly showing him its ok to show emotions haha
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
Posted by notsosureYou never had anything nice to say since day one. I wouldn't take anything you said seriously lol
I like how you poured all your emitions on him, smeared them in his face, after he told you he wasn't interested in it being emitional between the two of you —?
Seriously a bad match here ?
Posted by blackmoonThat's not what he thought but I appreciate your input
He uhh I would tell the guy to work it out with me.. because you become way too emersed into the relationship.. that it pushed him further away when you overreacted.he probably thought you couldn't handle being away from him for a while
(I scared of someone like that)
dont send him any more messages, you probably shouldn't have sent him any.. just let it be.
I hope you find someone special for you.. anyways it was a learning experience
I think it's good to keep it light in relationship, and always show appreciation to your cap.. not after it ends but during the relationship
Posted by MiscorpionI'm sorry to hear about that *hug* out of curiosity how long have you guys been broken up now? Are you both dating anyone else?
ohhhhh my gosh my Cappy pulled a similar card on me.... I never gave up on him or turned away....he meant too much and I wasn't going to take his final words without fighting and showing him I'm patient and right there through his busy times at work, his quiet recharging times etc it's taken some bumps in the road and both of us have needed to Balance each other at times...he grounds me when i get all emotional and i am slowly showing him its ok to show emotions haha
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
I'm already back onto the market as I cent out my life on hold. I'm not actively looking, I'm trying o balance between the life and I already have plus self help course is already hard. It's a nice ego boost to have so many notification on a dating site though hAha the one he logged on before.
I do wish him and I could start over but if it doesn't I will become more aware for the next time
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He just liked a photo I posted also viewed stories. That was a photo taken by him.
Posted by StrawberryJamWe are still together he tried convincing himself and me it wasn't fair with his workload and he felt I deserved more. This happened roughly a year ago and then it would pop up briefly on and off... I feel that's something I needed to decide for myself and have never left his side. We have been 3 years in a LDR. It has it challenges and when he retreats the communication lacks and this is our only means, it can get tough. We are seeing each other more and it's utterly amazing. After we meet he gets busy and quiet. The last time a month ago I pulled it out point blank and said I was prepared for him to go quiet and emmerse himself in his work it's his mechanisms after our steamy meet ups. I'm pretty sure it stumped him ? cause he replied with kisses. Starting to feel out his coping mechanisms and I think he is a little stunned that I know him better than he thinks I do. This has taken the whole duration of our relationship to reach where I am, wish I had tuned in sooner and saved a lot of emotional behaviour. This in itself I'm sure pushed him to duck for cover. So now I just txt when I feel like it or when he pops in my mind which is heaps and sprinkle a little love now and then and not drown him in it ?Posted by MiscorpionI'm sorry to hear about that *hug* out of curiosity how long have you guys been broken up now? Are you both dating anyone else?
ohhhhh my gosh my Cappy pulled a similar card on me.... I never gave up on him or turned away....he meant too much and I wasn't going to take his final words without fighting and showing him I'm patient and right there through his busy times at work, his quiet recharging times etc it's taken some bumps in the road and both of us have needed to Balance each other at times...he grounds me when i get all emotional and i am slowly showing him its ok to show emotions haha
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
I'm already back onto the market as I cent out my life on hold. I'm not actively looking, I'm trying o balance between the life and I already have plus self help course is already hard. It's a nice ego boost to have so many notification on a dating site though hAha the one he logged on before.
I do wish him and I could start over but if it doesn't I will become more aware for the next timeclick to expand
Posted by notsosurePosted by StrawberryJamI never had anything nice to say, because you never had anything nice to say. You made countless topics on this guy, about how he could not be trusted and how he was not really into you. I agreed with that, lots of people did, and that for some reason made you upset and you pursued him even harder. Caught up in proving yourself instead of realizing a lost cause when you saw it.Posted by notsosureYou never had anything nice to say since day one. I wouldn't take anything you said seriously lol
I like how you poured all your emitions on him, smeared them in his face, after he told you he wasn't interested in it being emitional between the two of you —?
Seriously a bad match here ?
Last post I saw from you, it literally said he came to your house and broke it off with you, because you were enotional and he was not interested in that.
Fair and square. Honest, like you say.
And then you go and write a long e-mail to him about all your emotions. I mean that IS funnay!?
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If you read it wasn't logic and owning what went wrong. Wasn't emotional but whatever
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by StrawberryJamThat's bsPosted by RamOnFire1His reasons was pretty much what I was acknowledging on my email to him. We were great he was really into me until our weekend away. I as really not myself cos I was falling for him but I couldn't communicate that I ended up pushing him away by being difficult and over reacting to many things. Even we also had MANy good moments on that trip he decided it was too much ups and downs just in 3 days.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
He said because of that he can't feel the deep connection (we had before) he can't see us working in long term. He said you are a really nice girl (while staring at my boobs) I could have see you for a few more times or few more months until I get caught up in work again. But that wouldn't be fair to you.
I didn't try to convince him I just thanked him for being respectful and honest during the break up and that I was falling and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared. I told him I will be sad but I will get over it. He had tears in his eyes and said me too
Only three difficult days n he walks
He wasn't in it
I mean wtf with a few more month or times n would get caught up in work , not fair. Blah blah
He already knew it be an end
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Yup just 3 bad days, even with lots of good as he describes too much ups and downs.
We were perfect before these 3 days though. Could it be his expectation for the trip was high so even the lows made him think it's not gonna work??
Posted by blackmoonAll good you were writing with good intentions. Unlike some bitter people on dxpPosted by StrawberryJamI dont know the entire details of your relationship but from reading your last post.. that's how I interpreted :/Posted by blackmoonThat's not what he thought but I appreciate your input
He uhh I would tell the guy to work it out with me.. because you become way too emersed into the relationship.. that it pushed him further away when you overreacted.he probably thought you couldn't handle being away from him for a while
(I scared of someone like that)
dont send him any more messages, you probably shouldn't have sent him any.. just let it be.
I hope you find someone special for you.. anyways it was a learning experience
I think it's good to keep it light in relationship, and always show appreciation to your cap.. not after it ends but during the relationship
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You made another thread about this?
You talk about intentions, while yours suck !!!!!
You intend on bombarding him every chance you get with your uncontrolled emotions so you can smother the fuck out of him hoping he'll feel sorry for you.
Grow some fucking dignity, for crying out loud ..... and step the fuck away like a grown up.
You came on too strong with the email. You're reinforcing his perception of being a clingy type. You've created an image in his mind this is how you're more likely to be if he continued with you and him pulling away is his way of letting you know how he doesn't know how to handle your wave of emotions. While unfair to you for him jumping to conclusions, think of it from his point of view. He can only go by through a glimpse of what he's experienced thus far. Here he is with a woman he is completely smitten with (because us Virgos have that spell among us 😉 ) and enjoying his time leisurely. But you're pulling all the fast cards when he has hinted many times to take it slow especially since the both of you have experienced a lot of hurt. He has given you exclusivity, that is a big leap of faith in itself and yet, you demand more. Now he is feeling insecurity in not being pleasing enough for you it is early on in the relationship so he'd rather call it quits now. I understand how emotions can be overwhelming, but there are better ways to express them.
If his tears are genuine then give him time. Plenty of it. Meanwhile, live life regularly as you have, continue to date, but don't be boastful about it via social media. If he contemplates you as long term potential in that time frame then he will reach out. And if he does, great! And when he does, do not overfill him with emotions, take it easy, he would be readjusting to that previous comfort level and he'll need to ease in to get there. Avoid relationship topics in the beginning, keep it on a friendly level but give subtle hints he has been on your mind. Focus on building a friendship first and use that time to figure out if he was really what you wanted.
If his tears are genuine then give him time. Plenty of it. Meanwhile, live life regularly as you have, continue to date, but don't be boastful about it via social media. If he contemplates you as long term potential in that time frame then he will reach out. And if he does, great! And when he does, do not overfill him with emotions, take it easy, he would be readjusting to that previous comfort level and he'll need to ease in to get there. Avoid relationship topics in the beginning, keep it on a friendly level but give subtle hints he has been on your mind. Focus on building a friendship first and use that time to figure out if he was really what you wanted.
she knows she came on really strong ... that is her intent.
Posted by VirgoreanThanks my friend. He actually gave me exclusivity since second date lol
You came on too strong with the email. You're reinforcing his perception of being a clingy type. You've created an image in his mind this is how you're more likely to be if he continued with you and him pulling away is his way of letting you know how he doesn't know how to handle your wave of emotions. While unfair to you for him jumping to conclusions, think of it from his point of view. He can only go by through a glimpse of what he's experienced thus far. Here he is with a woman he is completely smitten with (because us Virgos have that spell among us 😉 ) and enjoying his time leisurely. But you're pulling all the fast cards when he has hinted many times to take it slow especially since the both of you have experienced a lot of hurt. He has given you exclusivity, that is a big leap of faith in itself and yet, you demand more. Now he is feeling insecurity in not being pleasing enough for you it is early on in the relationship so he'd rather call it quits now. I understand how emotions can be overwhelming, but there are better ways to express them.
If his tears are genuine then give him time. Plenty of it. Meanwhile, live life regularly as you have, continue to date, but don't be boastful about it via social media. If he contemplates you as long term potential in that time frame then he will reach out. And if he does, great! And when he does, do not overfill him with emotions, take it easy, he would be readjusting to that previous comfort level and he'll need to ease in to get there. Avoid relationship topics in the beginning, keep it on a friendly level but give subtle hints he has been on your mind. Focus on building a friendship first and use that time to figure out if he was really what you wanted.
I sent that email was because I felt guilty about making him feel like he wasn't enough regarding trust etc.
I didn't post much on social media. He came checkout my stories and liked a pic o post. I mean if you view someone's stories you are letting them know that you are viewing. It's pretty much saying hey I'm still creeping and I'm not afraid to show it lol
The pic he liked is from our trip and he took the picture. I do believe his tears were genuine
Posted by ImpulsvYea part of what made me nervous in the trip was him saying he can never be with women his age he is 46 I'm in early 30/ but it still scares me when he said that. Especially when he said Jennifer looped is too old. She is 47 and looking half his age.Posted by StrawberryJamPosted by ImpulsvPosted by StrawberryJamThat's bsPosted by RamOnFire1His reasons was pretty much what I was acknowledging on my email to him. We were great he was really into me until our weekend away. I as really not myself cos I was falling for him but I couldn't communicate that I ended up pushing him away by being difficult and over reacting to many things. Even we also had MANy good moments on that trip he decided it was too much ups and downs just in 3 days.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
He said because of that he can't feel the deep connection (we had before) he can't see us working in long term. He said you are a really nice girl (while staring at my boobs) I could have see you for a few more times or few more months until I get caught up in work again. But that wouldn't be fair to you.
I didn't try to convince him I just thanked him for being respectful and honest during the break up and that I was falling and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared. I told him I will be sad but I will get over it. He had tears in his eyes and said me too
Only three difficult days n he walks
He wasn't in it
I mean wtf with a few more month or times n would get caught up in work , not fair. Blah blah
He already knew it be an end
Yup just 3 bad days, even with lots of good as he describes too much ups and downs.
We were perfect before these 3 days though. Could it be his expectation for the trip was high so even the lows made him think it's not gonna work??
It means he doesn't have the staying power for a serious relationship
Don't waste ur time ifvthats what ur looking
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When he was 40 he dated a girl who is 24 and lasted a year until the girl dumped him cos she likes to go party and the age difference she admit she never seen it as long term since day one.
Posted by ScorpioTruthHe said because of all the ups and downs in the trip he doesn't feel it. Then he apologized about couldn't make me feel comfortable. And he had tears in his eyes saying he will be very sad and I believe him
I am so confused. I thought you guys broke up because he said there was no spark? So why are you apologizing to him and why are you trying to pull him back in after he has pushed you away—
Now he is lurking on my Instagram viewing all of my stories and liking a pic I posted from our trip
Posted by ScorpioTruthYea it's like someone else who mentioned no staying power for serious relationship. Could be why he kept looking for younger girls and not women at his age. He could be shallow as well.
The best advice I can give is when someone shows you who they are, believe them.
And please stop blaming yourself. That's driving me nuts. If you fucked his friend or crashed his car, then you can apologize. Otherwise, save your apologies. You did nothing wrong. He is a big boy. He can handle a few emotional outbursts and insecurities. Take it from a very emotional Scorpio woman who's been with a cap for 9 years. He's stronger than you are giving him credit for.
Anyway I did my part so I don't have to feel guilty anymore.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100There's no manipulation you are entitled to your own opinion. Of course there's no such thing as "perfection" just like I said to him I'm not perfect and neither are you. He raised his eyebrows when he heard that. I then said neither is anyone else in the world.Posted by notsosureQuite manipulative ploy to get him to "change his mind"...
I like how you poured all your emitions on him, smeared them in his face, after he told you he wasn't interested in it being emitional between the two of you —?
Seriously a bad match here ?
4 months is nothing though...click to expand
Posted by ScorpioTruthRegarding viewing my stories to let me know he is still watching me. I'm not sure if it's mind game from him just to keep himself in my mind? Doesn't mean he wants to reconcile but to make it harder for me to move on?
The best advice I can give is when someone shows you who they are, believe them.
And please stop blaming yourself. That's driving me nuts. If you fucked his friend or crashed his car, then you can apologize. Otherwise, save your apologies. You did nothing wrong. He is a big boy. He can handle a few emotional outbursts and insecurities. Take it from a very emotional Scorpio woman who's been with a cap for 9 years. He's stronger than you are giving him credit for.
Posted by ScorpioTruthYes definitely. I wasn't gonna reach out again. Was curious about his intention. He definitely has to reach out if he wants to reconcile. I mean I'm taking action for self improvement meaning I'm upgrading myself. if he is changing his mind he has to give me a convincing reasonPosted by StrawberryJamTry not to overthink it Virgo. Know that he is fully capable of reaching out if he wants to. He could also be watching your stories to see if you're airing him out on social media. Don't let your eyes tell your mind a lie that your ears didn't hear. In other words, assume nothing about his actions unless he flat out is telling you this. That's what is getting you all mixed up inside. The ball is in HIS court. He is the one who ended it. If he's having second thoughts, let HIM be the one to reconcile.Posted by ScorpioTruthYou know what I meant by viewing my stories to let me know he is still watching me. I'm not sure if it's mind game from him just to keep himself in my mind? Doesn't mean he wants to reconcile but to make it harder for me to move on?
The best advice I can give is when someone shows you who they are, believe them.
And please stop blaming yourself. That's driving me nuts. If you fucked his friend or crashed his car, then you can apologize. Otherwise, save your apologies. You did nothing wrong. He is a big boy. He can handle a few emotional outbursts and insecurities. Take it from a very emotional Scorpio woman who's been with a cap for 9 years. He's stronger than you are giving him credit for.
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When is it going to dawn on everyone that she just wants to wallow in the drama?
It's not about a relationship ... it's about how much she can get people to continue nurturing the drama for her so she can splash around in it, like a luxurious bath.
Even all is said and done ... she comes back with something more to revive it, so she can talk about the misery of it, and how much she wants more of it.
seriously, like the viewing audience is this gullible and stupid? really?
From my experiences, as long as you don't go super crazy on him, he will still remain your friend. But dont interpret that as him still having a lot of feelings for you and wanting to be with you again. It's over.
Posted by pinkbird03That or he just likes what he sees so he's still liking my photos (photos with me in it) and viewing all of my stories.
From my experiences, as long as you don't go super crazy on him, he will still remain your friend. But dont interpret that as him still having a lot of feelings for you and wanting to be with you again. It's over.
Posted by StrawberryJamYea. If he thought you were pretty before, he still thinks you're pretty now. But right now he doesn't see a relationship with you. Same thing happened with me. So I did the 30 day rule with my cap- no talking. Now everything is real good and we enjoy hanging out together again. We aren't seriously dating though. I think it's more like friends and I'm totally okay with that. We go out to eat together and have a good time. It's nice. I'm happy with the way things turned out. 30 days might help you too.Posted by pinkbird03That or he just likes what he sees so he's still liking my photos (photos with me in it) and viewing all of my stories.
From my experiences, as long as you don't go super crazy on him, he will still remain your friend. But dont interpret that as him still having a lot of feelings for you and wanting to be with you again. It's over.
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Posted by pinkbird03Yea he thought I was too pretty for him before. He did tell me he is trying to look better as he can tell eveyone thinks he was punching above his weight.Posted by StrawberryJamYea. If he thought you were pretty before, he still thinks you're pretty now. But right now he doesn't see a relationship with you. Same thing happened with me. So I did the 30 day rule with my cap- no talking. Now everything is real good and we enjoy hanging out together again. We aren't seriously dating though. I think it's more like friends and I'm totally okay with that. We go out to eat together and have a good time. It's nice. I'm happy with the way things turned out. 30 days might help you too.Posted by pinkbird03That or he just likes what he sees so he's still liking my photos (photos with me in it) and viewing all of my stories.
From my experiences, as long as you don't go super crazy on him, he will still remain your friend. But dont interpret that as him still having a lot of feelings for you and wanting to be with you again. It's over.
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I haven't contacted him since the email. im not sad anymore today. I will just take it as it comes and not worry about the 30 days you know what I mean?
He just posted a stories of alcohol at a bar. He even posted the bar name in like ok this is a bit dumb. I wouldn't advertise the location until I'm gone
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100And not a bit less bitter...lolPosted by P-AngelLol lol lol
When is it going to dawn on everyone that she just wants to wallow in the drama?
It's not about a relationship ... it's about how much she can get people to continue nurturing the drama for her so she can splash around in it, like a luxurious bath.
Even all is said and done ... she comes back with something more to revive it, so she can talk about the misery of it, and how much she wants more of it.
seriously, like the viewing audience is this gullible and stupid? really?
Glad to see you still on form P... Lolclick to expand
Posted by MiscorpionYeah...because Capa wants their asses to be kissed all the way. God forbid you showed you have your own opinion or feelings! No! Too much to bare!!!
ohhhhh my gosh my Cappy pulled a similar card on me.... I never gave up on him or turned away....he meant too much and I wasn't going to take his final words without fighting and showing him I'm patient and right there through his busy times at work, his quiet recharging times etc it's taken some bumps in the road and both of us have needed to Balance each other at times...he grounds me when i get all emotional and i am slowly showing him its ok to show emotions haha
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
Because while you showing your emotions his ass missing kissing and it feels like he had been neglected and it's big no no!!!
Speaking from 23 years of experience being married to one!
Posted by GemitatiThat sounds like him. He did fish for compliments A LOT and I always reassure him and thats still wasn't enough.Posted by MiscorpionYeah...because Capa wants their asses to be kissed all the way. God forbid you showed you have your own opinion or feelings! No! Too much to bare!!!
ohhhhh my gosh my Cappy pulled a similar card on me.... I never gave up on him or turned away....he meant too much and I wasn't going to take his final words without fighting and showing him I'm patient and right there through his busy times at work, his quiet recharging times etc it's taken some bumps in the road and both of us have needed to Balance each other at times...he grounds me when i get all emotional and i am slowly showing him its ok to show emotions haha
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
Because while you showing your emotions his ass missing kissing and it feels like he had been neglected and it's big no no!!!
Speaking from 23 years of experience being married to one!click to expand
How can a light hearted Gemini stand the seriousness of a cap? Just curious how you manage him?
Posted by StrawberryJamOh I usually post my location while I'm out drinking. Not after.Posted by pinkbird03Yea he thought I was too pretty for him before. He did tell me he is trying to look better as he can tell eveyone thinks he was punching above his weight.Posted by StrawberryJamYea. If he thought you were pretty before, he still thinks you're pretty now. But right now he doesn't see a relationship with you. Same thing happened with me. So I did the 30 day rule with my cap- no talking. Now everything is real good and we enjoy hanging out together again. We aren't seriously dating though. I think it's more like friends and I'm totally okay with that. We go out to eat together and have a good time. It's nice. I'm happy with the way things turned out. 30 days might help you too.Posted by pinkbird03That or he just likes what he sees so he's still liking my photos (photos with me in it) and viewing all of my stories.
From my experiences, as long as you don't go super crazy on him, he will still remain your friend. But dont interpret that as him still having a lot of feelings for you and wanting to be with you again. It's over.
I haven't contacted him since the email. im not sad anymore today. I will just take it as it comes and not worry about the 30 days you know what I mean?
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Posted by StrawberryJamHe is non conventional Cap!Posted by GemitatiThat sounds like him. He did fish for compliments A LOT and I always reassure him and thats still wasn't enough.Posted by MiscorpionYeah...because Capa wants their asses to be kissed all the way. God forbid you showed you have your own opinion or feelings! No! Too much to bare!!!
ohhhhh my gosh my Cappy pulled a similar card on me.... I never gave up on him or turned away....he meant too much and I wasn't going to take his final words without fighting and showing him I'm patient and right there through his busy times at work, his quiet recharging times etc it's taken some bumps in the road and both of us have needed to Balance each other at times...he grounds me when i get all emotional and i am slowly showing him its ok to show emotions haha
Let your heart steer you not your head...the relationship changes..its a risk but its so worth it. If he is worth it, dont let him go.....
Because while you showing your emotions his ass missing kissing and it feels like he had been neglected and it's big no no!!!
Speaking from 23 years of experience being married to one!
How can a light hearted Gemini stand the seriousness of a cap? Just curious how you manage him?click to expand
As long as I serve his needs - he is happy.
And not serious at all! Singing stupid songs, rhymes stupid centences and words like mops-shmops...
Talking to me like if I am 12...then I yell and tell him to shut up and he looks at me in dismay like why? I said because I am telling I feel like you are a pedofile and I am a little girl to be raped!!! He says I never said that before!!! And HOW can anyone forget THAT kind of conversation—
Run! Please...
Since the break up I allowed myself time to feel the pain and time to grieve. While living a healthy life with food, exercise, friends and family and self help course. So I'm at a much better place now.
I'm a bit worry bout him though. His latest story was drinking alone I checked again. He just deleted it probably regret posting that
I'm a bit worry bout him though. His latest story was drinking alone I checked again. He just deleted it probably regret posting that
Posted by youngaliCos he checked mine. I also do like for like for my followers. As my page is not a personal pagePosted by StrawberryJamstop checking. why torture yourself like that?
Since the break up I allowed myself time to feel the pain and time to grieve. While living a healthy life with food, exercise, friends and family and self help course. So I'm at a much better place now.
I'm a bit worry bout him though. His latest story was drinking alone I checked again. He just deleted it probably regret posting thatclick to expand
@capstar03 he replied Hi ,
Thank you for your message and for your kind words. I am glad I met you, got to know you and created those beautiful moments. I am sorry it did not work out between us. I like you and I enjoy your company, as I told you the other day, we could have stayed together for few more months and have a comfortable enjoyable relationship but I know deep down that this could not be forever. I gave us a chance but I have not develop the emotional connection and the feelings I know I am able to develop for a person.
Please, please don't be too harsh on yourself, you did not do anything wrong, the timing was wrong, it was just not meant to be. We are at two different stages of our lives. I have finally become a mature person, mostly comfortable with who I am, I have dealt with most of my insecurities and I am pretty much in peace with my feelings and emotions. You are still exploring your emotions, your feelings, your connections with people and the world around you and how you react to them. You will eventually find peace and serenity, it's the journey which is ahead of you; which I think is exciting.
You are an attractive, beautiful young woman full of energy, drive, passion and integrity.
I will cherish the memories of our time together.
Take good care of yourself,
xo
Thank you for your message and for your kind words. I am glad I met you, got to know you and created those beautiful moments. I am sorry it did not work out between us. I like you and I enjoy your company, as I told you the other day, we could have stayed together for few more months and have a comfortable enjoyable relationship but I know deep down that this could not be forever. I gave us a chance but I have not develop the emotional connection and the feelings I know I am able to develop for a person.
Please, please don't be too harsh on yourself, you did not do anything wrong, the timing was wrong, it was just not meant to be. We are at two different stages of our lives. I have finally become a mature person, mostly comfortable with who I am, I have dealt with most of my insecurities and I am pretty much in peace with my feelings and emotions. You are still exploring your emotions, your feelings, your connections with people and the world around you and how you react to them. You will eventually find peace and serenity, it's the journey which is ahead of you; which I think is exciting.
You are an attractive, beautiful young woman full of energy, drive, passion and integrity.
I will cherish the memories of our time together.
Take good care of yourself,
xo
Posted by StrawberryJamPosted by RamOnFire1His reasons was pretty much what I was acknowledging on my email to him. We were great he was really into me until our weekend away. I as really not myself cos I was falling for him but I couldn't communicate that I ended up pushing him away by being difficult and over reacting to many things. Even we also had MANy good moments on that trip he decided it was too much ups and downs just in 3 days.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
He said because of that he can't feel the deep connection (we had before) he can't see us working in long term. He said you are a really nice girl (while staring at my boobs) I could have see you for a few more times or few more months until I get caught up in work again. But that wouldn't be fair to you.
I didn't try to convince him I just thanked him for being respectful and honest during the break up and that I was falling and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared. I told him I will be sad but I will get over it. He had tears in his eyes and said me tooclick to expand
To be honest it does not look like your fault. He asked you to join him on his work trip and then after having fun he could not deal with your insecurities. If he wanted he could have tried to convince you, maybe you were being difficult but he gave up too easily. When two people like each other they are supposed to stick with each other not give up when the fun is over. It would have been different if this was going on for a long time, the insecurity. But he gave up in the start itself. So maybe in a way good for you because he was not that invested maybe.
@puhleeze @scropiotruth
Yep I had my insecurities. So did he as he often made jokes about he got wrinkles, too skinny and made jokes about me liking my boss and my friends (including gay guys)
I reassure him I only have eyes have him everytime "jokes" like this comes up.
Yes I like brutal honestly as this is how I feel as well. Anyway I think he was never that invested to begin with as I saw many red flags along like following random girls on Instagram. I know many women here believe I'm paranoid. However if you look at my Instagram inbox you would see mostly are filled with random guys trying to chat me up or even sending dick pics.
I doubt he was sending dick pics and the intention to know them is there.
Also he hid all of his tagged photos after I tag him for one dessert pic. That tells me he is hiding something. Idk what. Most women would just try to act cool but be cold and not bring it up even it bothers them. I rather be blunt and asked him about it. He reassured me it's because he is private. Private perso don't post their where about while they in that place.
Also he already told me he can never settle with women in their 40s. I'm still in early 30/ but that would mean only 7 years to go if this was stretch any longer.
As I suspected he had a certain type he goes for. He is now back to following girls with flatchest. This time is not models eithe. Just some very small account where the girl is only average looking.
Posted by ScorpioTruthPosted by CapzNot always. Some caps are also opportunists and will take advantage and will keep women in emotional limbo as long as they're benefitting.Posted by ScorpioTruth
Yeah he has made it very clear strawberry.. Just keep it moving. You gotta appreciate his honesty. Brutal, but honest.
capricornish af
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It's ok we will just be Instagram friends. He can keep viewing my stories and liking my photos and I will just do like back when he does lol
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by StrawberryJamThat's bsPosted by RamOnFire1His reasons was pretty much what I was acknowledging on my email to him. We were great he was really into me until our weekend away. I as really not myself cos I was falling for him but I couldn't communicate that I ended up pushing him away by being difficult and over reacting to many things. Even we also had MANy good moments on that trip he decided it was too much ups and downs just in 3 days.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
He said because of that he can't feel the deep connection (we had before) he can't see us working in long term. He said you are a really nice girl (while staring at my boobs) I could have see you for a few more times or few more months until I get caught up in work again. But that wouldn't be fair to you.
I didn't try to convince him I just thanked him for being respectful and honest during the break up and that I was falling and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared. I told him I will be sad but I will get over it. He had tears in his eyes and said me too
Only three difficult days n he walks
He wasn't in it
I mean wtf with a few more month or times n would get caught up in work , not fair. Blah blah
He already knew it be an end
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Exactly. And he let her visit him on his work trip and then back down after having fun.
Posted by WhatthehellPosted by StrawberryJamUgh.
@puhleeze @scropiotruth
Also he already told me he can never settle with women in their 40s. I'm still in early 30/ but that would mean only 7 years to go if this was stretch any longer.
I'm 13 years younger tha him
Are you older than him? He was telling you at this moment that he didn't see a future with you. Good to know for your future use.click to expand
Posted by WhatthehellWell he is 46 and he doesn't like the appearance of women in their 40sPosted by StrawberryJamI don't understand what he was saying then. You're too young? He plans to keep trading in women for younger ones when they hit 40?Posted by WhatthehellPosted by StrawberryJamUgh.
@puhleeze @scropiotruth
Also he already told me he can never settle with women in their 40s. I'm still in early 30/ but that would mean only 7 years to go if this was stretch any longer.
I'm 13 years younger tha him
Are you older than him? He was telling you at this moment that he didn't see a future with you. Good to know for your future use.click to expand
When he was 40 he was with a girl hat is 24. She dumped him saying she is 2 old and they st different stages in their life like he has low energy and she still wants to party.
I know I might have been dumb on the trip. I was scared and I said if we don't progress by next month we need to go our separate ways. He looked sad and goes why? You not feeling it? I said no that's not what I said even I kept telling him I'm really into him afterwards it didn't help.
Anyway now he really dumped me and using the same excuse that girl gave him. So if he wants someone st the same age he need someone in her 40s. But he doesn't like their appearance lol
Posted by StrawberryJamPosted by WhatthehellWell he is 46 and he doesn't like the appearance of women in their 40sPosted by StrawberryJamI don't understand what he was saying then. You're too young? He plans to keep trading in women for younger ones when they hit 40?Posted by WhatthehellPosted by StrawberryJamUgh.
@puhleeze @scropiotruth
Also he already told me he can never settle with women in their 40s. I'm still in early 30/ but that would mean only 7 years to go if this was stretch any longer.
I'm 13 years younger tha him
Are you older than him? He was telling you at this moment that he didn't see a future with you. Good to know for your future use.
When he was 40 he was with a girl hat is 24. She dumped him saying she is 2 old and they st different stages in their life like he has low energy and she still wants to party.
I know I might have been dumb on the trip. I was scared and I said if we don't progress by next month we need to go our separate ways. He looked sad and goes why? You not feeling it? I said no that's not what I said even I kept telling him I'm really into him afterwards it didn't help.
Anyway now he really dumped me and using the same excuse that girl gave him. So if he wants someone st the same age he need someone in her 40s. But he doesn't like their appearance lolclick to expand
Is the mid life crisis guy who was chasing other younger women? If so, why do you want to start with him again?
Is this still continue? After old goat dumped young woman?
Are we trying to reconciliate?
Are we trying to reconciliate?
Posted by GemitatiLol at old goat
Is this still continue? After old goat dumped young woman?
Are we trying to reconciliate?
Ewwww
Posted by puhleezePosted by ImpulsvPosted by StrawberryJamThat's bsPosted by RamOnFire1His reasons was pretty much what I was acknowledging on my email to him. We were great he was really into me until our weekend away. I as really not myself cos I was falling for him but I couldn't communicate that I ended up pushing him away by being difficult and over reacting to many things. Even we also had MANy good moments on that trip he decided it was too much ups and downs just in 3 days.
Why did he broke up with you? What reasons did he gave you?
Just curious you dont need to share if you dont feel like it.
*Sending virtual hugs to you..
He said because of that he can't feel the deep connection (we had before) he can't see us working in long term. He said you are a really nice girl (while staring at my boobs) I could have see you for a few more times or few more months until I get caught up in work again. But that wouldn't be fair to you.
I didn't try to convince him I just thanked him for being respectful and honest during the break up and that I was falling and I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared. I told him I will be sad but I will get over it. He had tears in his eyes and said me too
Only three difficult days n he walks
He wasn't in it
I mean wtf with a few more month or times n would get caught up in work , not fair. Blah blah
He already knew it be an end
Exactly. And he let her visit him on his work trip and then back down after having fun.
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Yep he's been asking since date 3 his first work trip. Then asked again in the one I went to as I declined the first one as it's way too soon.
Before I went he said come I will take you to this seafood place doesn't matter if you don't know how to remove he shells I will do it for you.
When I'm there he said I will show you. Then he goes I was just saying things to make you come by the time we are there you will be doing the shells for me.
I said ah I see what a player. He got upset. Anyway we didn't ended up going to that place either. I might have saidbstupid things but he also had this kind of "jokes" that made me feel insecure and questioned his intention
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by StrawberryJamPosted by WhatthehellWell he is 46 and he doesn't like the appearance of women in their 40sPosted by StrawberryJamI don't understand what he was saying then. You're too young? He plans to keep trading in women for younger ones when they hit 40?Posted by WhatthehellPosted by StrawberryJamUgh.
@puhleeze @scropiotruth
Also he already told me he can never settle with women in their 40s. I'm still in early 30/ but that would mean only 7 years to go if this was stretch any longer.
I'm 13 years younger tha him
Are you older than him? He was telling you at this moment that he didn't see a future with you. Good to know for your future use.
When he was 40 he was with a girl hat is 24. She dumped him saying she is 2 old and they st different stages in their life like he has low energy and she still wants to party.
I know I might have been dumb on the trip. I was scared and I said if we don't progress by next month we need to go our separate ways. He looked sad and goes why? You not feeling it? I said no that's not what I said even I kept telling him I'm really into him afterwards it didn't help.
Anyway now he really dumped me and using the same excuse that girl gave him. So if he wants someone st the same age he need someone in her 40s. But he doesn't like their appearance lol
Is the mid life crisis guy who was chasing other younger women? If so, why do you want to start with him again?click to expand
I wanted him back because I was feeling guilty about my behavior. I thought I ruined things and I forgot about the midlife crisis thing.
I've been taking all the positive steps to move on such as self reflection, self help course and going to chat with psychologist as they are very good at giving perspective about the responsibility of both party. I just want it for self awareness and development so make my future better.
I've also been pursuing my passion, spending time with friends and about to go on a mini trip soon to catch up with old friends and to have fun.
Actually what exactly is mid life crisis? This term is thrown around a lot as jokes in TV or movies. On a serious note Is it some depression guys in 40s has because they are insecure about their ageing process?
He did admit he used to drink way too much alcohol. He also admit to me on the trip that he has unresolved issues. He doesn't sound like he is close to his parents. I know they are in France but he doesn't sound happy whenever I mention about them.
He's still viewing my stories and liking my post on Instagram. I'm sure he was very into me in every way before. He started distancing after I asked him if he is going to leave a woman as soon as she hits 40s. Then I got scared and said if we are not moving forward we need to break up next month. And you know what happened since.
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