When Geminis Hurt...

Here's the thing. I noticed that Gems are rarely classified as the underdog because nothing seems to faze us. But we d
41 years old female from Magrathea
"Mistress of MuMu and Maximus; highly complex Gemini; semi-jaded romantic; purv
Here's the thing. I noticed that Gems are rarely classified as the underdog because nothing seems to faze us. But we do get hurt and although we bounce back pretty quickly, that doesn't negate the fact that we have been hurt and that it also cuts us deep.

I guess I'm just ranting at how other signs seem to monopolize the hurt implying that because of how resilient we are, we could never possibly imagine the pain that they've gone through. It's like they trivialize whatever it is that's broken our heart just because we don't tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves.

I know that there are two sides of us and those who are non-Gemini will rarely understand this. They can choose to embrace it but unless they're there, they will never understand it fully. There's the light and bubbly and sociable side to us and then, there's the dark and lonely place that we often choose to experience alone mostly because most people seem to like the other side of us more. They (others) don't see it very often but it exists.

In fact -- and this is just a theory -- Gems might have more cumulative hurt, if you come to think of it because unlike other signs, despite being hurt, we will have the courage to get back in the ring and try again. Just because we're brave enough to do that doesn't mean we didn't hurt tremendously though.

???my birth chart??? Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0 Sun Gemini 2.1
Posted by Joanie675
Here's the thing. I noticed that Gems are rarely classified as the underdog because nothing seems to faze us. But we do get hurt and although we bounce back pretty quickly, that doesn't negate the fact that we have been hurt and that it also cuts us deep.

I guess I'm just ranting at how other signs seem to monopolize the hurt implying that because of how resilient we are, we could never possibly imagine the pain that they've gone through. It's like they trivialize whatever it is that's broken our heart just because we don't tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves.

I know that there are two sides of us and those who are non-Gemini will rarely understand this. They can choose to embrace it but unless they're there, they will never understand it fully. There's the light and bubbly and sociable side to us and then, there's the dark and lonely place that we often choose to experience alone mostly because most people seem to like the other side of us more. They (others) don't see it very often but it exists.

In fact -- and this is just a theory -- Gems might have more cumulative hurt, if you come to think of it because unlike other signs, despite being hurt, we will have the courage to get back in the ring and try again. Just because we're brave enough to do that doesn't mean we didn't hurt tremendously though.




that is so true dear! i gotten hurt plenty of time but i brush myself off and get back up again. though i may cover it with a smile and seems that it doesnt bother me. when inside it does. and no one will ever understand me truly. this puts everything on spot. very good job ^^
???my birth chart??? Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0 Sun Gemini 2.1
Posted by Ccdarling
Posted by Joanie675
Here's the thing. I noticed that Gems are rarely classified as the underdog because nothing seems to faze us. But we do get hurt and although we bounce back pretty quickly, that doesn't negate the fact that we have been hurt and that it also cuts us deep.

I guess I'm just ranting at how other signs seem to monopolize the hurt implying that because of how resilient we are, we could never possibly imagine the pain that they've gone through. It's like they trivialize whatever it is that's broken our heart just because we don't tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves.

I know that there are two sides of us and those who are non-Gemini will rarely understand this. They can choose to embrace it but unless they're there, they will never understand it fully. There's the light and bubbly and sociable side to us and then, there's the dark and lonely place that we often choose to experience alone mostly because most people seem to like the other side of us more. They (others) don't see it very often but it exists.

In fact -- and this is just a theory -- Gems might have more cumulative hurt, if you come to think of it because unlike other signs, despite being hurt, we will have the courage to get back in the ring and try again. Just because we're brave enough to do that doesn't mean we didn't hurt tremendously though.

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You are exactly right. We do feel emotional pain just like everyone else, we just have a totally different way of dealing with it. Which is never understood by others, but we Gems always understand each other. Probably why so many Gems marry other Gems. We can be in pain and still feel the need to make others laugh and have a good time. Our dark and lonely place never allows anyone else in, not even to get a glimpse of our pain and anguish. It is our secret and we never tell others or show them that it exists. Most people will lay in bed or pout, but we somehow find a way to pull ourselves together and go on about our business as if nothing ever happened, maybe this is why so many Gems are great Actors and Actresses it is an everyday thing for us to put on a rose colored mirage for everyone else, even if we are really dying inside. Which is why they find us cold and heartless. However for us, the world is going on around us and we feel like
???my birth chart??? Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0 Sun Gemini 2.1
nicely said Ccdarling
41 years old female from Magrathea
"Mistress of MuMu and Maximus; highly complex Gemini; semi-jaded romantic; purv
Posted by Ccdarling

You are exactly right. We do feel emotional pain just like everyone else, we just have a totally different way of dealing with it. Which is never understood by others, but we Gems always understand each other. Probably why so many Gems marry other Gems.
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That's one reason why I am super glad I found this forum.

Yeah, I've read other posts saying that Gems are good with Gems so... maybe I should give up that Virgo who is in perpetual emotional denial and just go look for a Gem, LOL.

Actually, one of my best guy friends is a Gem. I know he loves me and I love him too but we're too much like an old couple for there to be anything romantic (at least on my part). I need to smell testosterone on him and I don't. Gaws, I wish I did. Life would be so much simpler if we ended up together.
41 years old female from Magrathea
"Mistress of MuMu and Maximus; highly complex Gemini; semi-jaded romantic; purv
LOL. Okay, now I know why there is a preview MESSAGE button here -- proofread typos and html code before it is irrevocably posted!!! Arghhh.
???my birth chart??? Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0 Sun Gemini 2.1
lol...i would never again date a gemini. because it never works out. too many lies,cheats,etc. & i want someone different. so i am still not giving up on my virgo >.
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Posted by gemtaur
Laughing at our own pain; crying for another's. That's the way we roll.



*dies* that is so true. 100% .
35 years old male from Canada
No.
When Geminis Hurt...

Mr.Crabby is happy.
41 years old female from Magrathea
"Mistress of MuMu and Maximus; highly complex Gemini; semi-jaded romantic; purv
Posted by mr.crabby
When Geminis Hurt...

Mr.Crabby is happy.


Why? Why? Why?

You a MEANIE.
from USA


You are exactly right. We do feel emotional pain just like everyone else, we just have a totally different way of dealing with it. Which is never understood by others, but we Gems always understand each other. Probably why so many Gems marry other Gems. We can be in pain and still feel the need to make others laugh and have a good time. Our dark and lonely place never allows anyone else in, not even to get a glimpse of our pain and anguish. It is our secret and we never tell others or show them that it exists. Most people will lay in bed or pout, but we somehow find a way to pull ourselves together and go on about our business as if nothing ever happened, maybe this is why so many Gems are great Actors and Actresses it is an everyday thing for us to put on a rose colored mirage for everyone else, even if we are really dying inside. Which is why they find us cold and heartless. However for us, the world is going on around us and we feel like it is our obligation to participate no matter how much pain we may be feeling.

CC, you hit the nail on the head, as usual.

i think the fact that gems are emotional individuals, we take things more personal than other signs. i know I do. and when i get down, i feel as if no one but myself can eventually lift me up. my husband knows when i get to this point, but feels inept to bring me out of the depth of anguish i'm experiencing. i find myself having to get off my duff and go to the gym to workout or swim laps. those things help improve my mood and make me feel happier. I also am addicted to music and it's effect on my attitude is overwhelming at times.
sometimes when i can't explain how crappy I feel, when I feel totally alone, i play the song "Away from the Sun" by 3 doors down. that song just speaks to my heart and allows me to really feel what i'm feeling without having to explain it to someone else.

"Away From The Sun"

It's down to this
I've got to make this life make sense
Can anyone tell what I've done
I miss the life
I miss the colours of the world
Can anyone tell where I am

'Cause now again I've found myself
So far down, away from the sun
That shines into the darkest place
I'm so far down, away from the sun again
Away from the sun again

I'm over this
I'm tired of living in the dark
Can anyone see me down here
The feeling's gone
There's nothing left to lift me up
Back into the world I know

And now again I've found m
from USA
"Away From The Sun"

It's down to this
I've got to make this life make sense
Can anyone tell what I've done
I miss the life
I miss the colours of the world
Can anyone tell where I am

'Cause now again I've found myself
So far down, away from the sun
That shines into the darkest place
I'm so far down, away from the sun again
Away from the sun again

I'm over this
I'm tired of living in the dark
Can anyone see me down here
The feeling's gone
There's nothing left to lift me up
Back into the world I know

And now again I've found myself
So far down, away from the sun
That shines into the darkest place
I'm so far down, away from the sun
That shines to light the way for me
To find my way back into the arms
That care about the ones like me
I'm so far down, away from the sun again

It's down to this
I've got to make this life make sense
And now I can't tell what I've done

And now again I've found myself
So far down, away from the sun
That shines to light the way for me

'Cause now again I've found myself
So far down, away from the sun
That shines into the darkest place
I'm so far down, away from the sun
That shines to light the way for me
To find my way back into the arms
That care about the ones like me
I'm so far down, away from the sun again

Oh no...
Yeah...
I'm gone...
female from Namibia
Dreamer @ heart yet I'm too earthy to be up in the clouds for too long... capa
Wow...U gys r awesom3. I had a gem frnd,who went thru a break up. Al i wantd ws 2 b there 4 her. Bt she kept on brushing it off. And she would go on smiling lyk nothing hapend. I didnt undrstand her at all! To me,it ws lyk she didnt get hurt. Bt the one thing she didnt undrstand is that i wsnt gna luk at her in a weird way if she cried. Im her frnd. And i wantd 2 b ther 4 her. Cz she had bn ther 4 me. Bt nw i get it. Thanx yallz
41 years old female from Magrathea
"Mistress of MuMu and Maximus; highly complex Gemini; semi-jaded romantic; purv
Posted by leilaxxlovez
Wow...U gys r awesom3. I had a gem frnd,who went thru a break up. Al i wantd ws 2 b there 4 her. Bt she kept on brushing it off. And she would go on smiling lyk nothing hapend. I didnt undrstand her at all! To me,it ws lyk she didnt get hurt. Bt the one thing she didnt undrstand is that i wsnt gna luk at her in a weird way if she cried. Im her frnd. And i wantd 2 b ther 4 her. Cz she had bn ther 4 me. Bt nw i get it. Thanx yallz


Awww.... you are sweet. =) You know, even if your friend kept brushing off your fussing over her, I'm pretty sure that she appreciated it a lot. Most of the time, when we're in this place, someone noticing that we are helps a lot. It makes us come out of this cave faster. Although we may prefer finding our balance by ourselves (as opposed to someone holding our hands while we do it), your presence and moral support keeps us going. You're an awesome friend. Just wanted to tell you that.
???my birth chart??? Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0 Sun Gemini 2.1
Posted by Joanie675
Posted by leilaxxlovez
Wow...U gys r awesom3. I had a gem frnd,who went thru a break up. Al i wantd ws 2 b there 4 her. Bt she kept on brushing it off. And she would go on smiling lyk nothing hapend. I didnt undrstand her at all! To me,it ws lyk she didnt get hurt. Bt the one thing she didnt undrstand is that i wsnt gna luk at her in a weird way if she cried. Im her frnd. And i wantd 2 b ther 4 her. Cz she had bn ther 4 me. Bt nw i get it. Thanx yallz


Awww.... you are sweet. =) You know, even if your friend kept brushing off your fussing over her, I'm pretty sure that she appreciated it a lot. Most of the time, when we're in this place, someone noticing that we are helps a lot. It makes us come out of this cave faster. Although we may prefer finding our balance by ourselves (as opposed to someone holding our hands while we do it), your presence and moral support keeps us going. You're an awesome friend. Just wanted to tell you that.
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hear hear! & thank you leila
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