What's a good story to get this Gemini laid?

First of all, it's not what you think it is. I'm a 25 year old virgin female. After thinking for about 12 years of my life, I feel like I'm finally ready to lose my virginity. The thing is when searching for men to lose my virginity to, I felt the best ap
25 years old female
First of all, it's not what you think it is. I'm a 25 year old virgin female. After thinking for about 12 years of my life, I feel like I'm finally ready to lose my virginity. The thing is when searching for men to lose my virginity to, I felt the best approach was to be open and honest that I am a virgin and that I'm ready to take a possible relationship to a physical level if the connection is there.

But when I tell the guys this it's like they don't want to take my virginity. They don't want to be my first. I feel that they feel unworthy and that they think they're going to have to coach me and teach me through everything.

So now I'm thinking that I need a story so that when me and a possible candidate do have sex, that they'll be alert enough to be cautious and treat the sex unlike the regular basic bxtch sex they have all the time, but not treat me like a fragile little baby that don't know what I'm getting myself into.

I was thinking of telling the guys that yes, I've had sex before with one guy. But I don't want to make this hypothetical guy seem like the best thing I never had. Yet also I don't want to make it seem like I didn't rack up enough experience points from him.

Saying that I've only had sex with 2 guys is suspicious af. And saying I've had sex with 3 guys is getting into basic bxtch sex territory.

What do you guys think? Should I still be honest? I've told four guys this and they all react the same, and I'm honestly not thinking of having this guy for a relationship. I've come to terms with the fact that my first time... it's probably not going to be special and magical, which is sad. I pretty much just want to experience the experience.

If you understand the struggle I'm going through, what's a good story I can tell a guy when speaking about my hypothetical sexual history?

I'm also open to new suggestions.
I guess I was sort of lucky, I met a cap that I had great chemistry with, but he had some red flags, so I didn't want to have a relationship with him. Instead I just casually asked him to come over one saturday night -- with no expectations, I guess I just thought that if something were to happen, he wouldn't be the worst to lose my virginity to. He knew why he was there, of course -- I mean, I wasn't very subtle -- and things got heated pretty quickly. I had no idea what I was doing, but I decided to just go with my instincts. Then he lost his erection, because he was so nervous and thought that I was much more experienced than him?! Lol idk. So eventually, I admitted that I "have never done this before". And he asked me if I still wanted to, and I said yes -- and that was it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's all in the way you say it. Don't drop the "I'm a virgin" bomb on him right up front. You could say "I'm not that experienced" or something, but you really don't have to make up a whole story about a guy that doesn't excist. Find a guy that seems nice and that you have chemistry with, and fool around with him some at first, so that he can see that you're not a total noob. The cap was shocked when I told him, because I had seemed like I knew what I was doing when we were fooling around. And then I guess he wasn't that turned off about the virgin part after all. Actually, I think he considered it a turn on.

Dont tell them let and let the relationship progress naturally if you like the person..they will find out eventually

on the contrary my gemini ex lied about being a virgin to take my virginity 😂, you'll have no problem..just be convincing. also he said he knew i was too relunctant and dead set on not having sex..that id keep crying about it if i knew truth
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You have it all wrong. It's not that they feel unworthy. They don't want to cause pain/ick factor of hymen tearing. They also probably don't want to have to deal with your infatuation after.

Have you treetrunked yourself with a dildo? Your fingers?? Your not really a virgin then even though a dick hasn't penetrated you. It's also highly unlikely you have a hymen intact, especially if your a tampon user.

My point is if your just looking for a hookup don't mention the virgin thing. I didn't my first time, and like you I was in my early 20s.

Have you had oral sex before? I'd suggest getting yourself a fwb and get super comfortable/play without going all the way the first few times. You'll be more relaxed which will enhance the experience.
Posted by mjmotr1
First of all, it's not what you think it is. I'm a 25 year old virgin female.



i was with a virgin gemini. i made a pass at her. she said: what about our friendship. i said: itll be the same still. i slept with her (i lied to her i had slept with dozens of women before, as she was curious about positions and will it hurt and was looking at me for guidance; we rehearsed a couple of times before, and once she made up her mind) , everything went fine.


i dumped her 2 months later or so
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Posted by nightowl
Dont tell them let and let the relationship progress naturally if you like the person..they will find out eventually

on the contrary my gemini ex lied about being a virgin to take my virginity 😂, you'll have no problem..just be convincing. also he said he knew i was too relunctant and dead set on not having sex..that id keep crying about it if i knew truth


I agree with this.. I wouldn't go out of my way to tell them anything. Just let it naturally progress.
Also.. I don't think it's a great idea to look for a guy just to get sex out of the way. Wait for the right one
"Double Pisces, double delight. Sag rising VIA MIA
Just do it. No need to advertize it, since 99% of guys won't notice a drop of blood (which may not happen) or question your inexperience anyway.


"Double Pisces, double delight. Sag rising VIA MIA
Who asks a 25yrs old how many sexual partners has had anyway...?

If you are asked, reply with "just enough to make you wear a condom".
25 years old female
The problem with just letting it happen is, when getting to know somebody to see if you have a connection, the question almost always comes up. Idk I guess they can tell that there's not many miles on this car. The last one, I did as some of you have suggested and I didn't say anything about the fact. And it most certainly came up because he was actually trying to get to know me and possibly build a relationship (but in the end he was playing with my feelings). So I told him the truth. In the future, even though there was major sexual tension and chemistry he was steadily trying to "take things slow" but I was ready. And like some of you have stated before, I got to try not to look desperate so I didn't disagree to his let's take things slow notion. But the slowness was most likely due to the fact that he knew I was a virgin even though before he knew, he was full steam ahead when he didn't know.

IDK I'm going to go with the just let it happen thing again. If the question pops up like it did times before, I'll just Improv lol.
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Posted by Undine
Who asks a 25yrs old how many sexual partners has had anyway...?

If you are asked, reply with "just enough to make you wear a condom".


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22 years old female from The Deep South, USA
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You're over-thinking things. Stop telling people you're a virgin and just hop on that chicken. x
Pepi.
Just be yourself and be natural. I dont know why you need to tell ppl u are a virgin if they didnt ask. I mean, if you feel like you connect with the person and things lead to intercourse just go with the flow. Otherwise you rationalize and complicate something that shouldnt be thought but felt.
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Posted by nightowl
Dont tell them let and let the relationship progress naturally if you like the person..they will find out eventually

on the contrary my gemini ex lied about being a virgin to take my virginity 😂, you'll have no problem..just be convincing. also he said he knew i was too relunctant and dead set on not having sex..that id keep crying about it if i knew truth


I agree with this.. I wouldn't go out of my way to tell them anything. Just let it naturally progress.
Also.. I don't think it's a great idea to look for a guy just to get sex out of the way. Wait for the right one
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I agree with everything but the existence of a certain "right one". Tho for sure there are a lot of wrong ones
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