LEO's what would you do?

So i posted in the virgo section but no one cares so maybe my fellow leo's could give me your opinion and input. Long story short on two separate occasions i've caught my boyfriend trying to message a girl on snapchat, it wasn't super inappropriate but
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Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok



I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.


Don’t be digging through his stuff. I’d have done something like that just to piss you off


immature 40 year old.


Lol. You’re the one invading others privacy and you are calling me immature?

Grow up already. Insecure teeny bopper
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Ur lame af lol.
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Dont see the problem, he seems understanding


What do you mean by he seems understanding? I’m the one that’s understanding, he messed up. Did I confuse you?
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Yeah i dont know. Sorry im not a Leo. Just a female.
But anywho. His text message about not deserving you would have been enough proof for me. Proof that he isnt man enough and probably wont ever be.
This is how my early 20's self prolly would have responded to the situation...

1. Him feeling that way should make him want to be the best man he can be. Not want to be a butterhead.
2. I have no time to coddle a baby who wants and needs his ego fluffed up by every tom dick and harry to feel better about himself
3. I have my own life to develop and dont need to be weighed down by some hapless male who cant deal with his feelings properly
4. So im also not his mom.
5. If he feels like this now, how is he going to feel when i become some uber successful entrepreneur and make more in a year than what he will make in 10. He'll prolly set all my butter on fire and treetrunk the babysitter at the same time.

So after i wrote that list out i would have dumped him. Just personally..
Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Cancer Mercury, Gemini Venus, Virgo Mars, Libra Risi

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40 years old male
Can I get a do over?
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Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok



I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.


Don’t be digging through his stuff. I’d have done something like that just to piss you off


immature 40 year old.
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Lol. You’re the one invading others privacy and you are calling me immature?

Grow up already. Insecure teeny bopper
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As a Leo woman, I wouldn't care too much because it's pretty harmless. It's social media and having a good network is good for everyone. Through his actions of not trying to hide the fact that he does have
other girls on SC, I can understand that messaging them can come with that.
BUT if he has the discipline to not use SC to hit on girls, that's the kind of guy I want in my life. If a guy has to use social media to hit on a girl, while that guy is in a relationship already, sends big red flags everywhere. He's still a boy. Bye boy.
Ask yourself, why does he have SC?
Why do you have SC?
If the way he is using his SC bothering you, ask yourself if you trust him.
If you do, then don't complain.
If you don't trust him, it's better to get out of the relationship. Don't settle for less, There are plenty of fishes in the sea.


Thanks,
I did trust him until this, all of the trust i have for him isn't completely lost. I feel like the trust can be rebuilt, it's just up to him to initiate it. I'm mostly just hurt and i feel like i'm sulking right now :/ I'm so hurt because I know the we both care and love one another deeply so why would he risk it all.


He wants you to be okay with it, just make sure that he understands that it's OK if you do it too. Check out other guys, flirt with them, get their phone numbers ECT using SC or not.
If he wants to be in a relationship, he should not be hitting on other woman... using SC or not.
It is NOT okay. if he wants to act like he's single then make him single.
I've been w/ virgo ex for 7 years. I was an enabler...because that's how Leo's love. But he took advantage of that by expecting me to be okay with the things he did while I could not. I look back and wondered why I cave in instead of running away, fast. If you decide to cave in, then get mad when he does it again, you set yourself up to get mad. Just speaking from my experience.
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wow girl thank you for this. Today we are going to have a talk about healthy boundaries for our relationship because this is clearly still bothering me.
Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Cancer Mercury, Gemini Venus, Virgo Mars, Libra Risi
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Posted by 29Leo
As a Leo woman, I wouldn't care too much because it's pretty harmless. It's social media and having a good network is good for everyone. Through his actions of not trying to hide the fact that he does have
other girls on SC, I can understand that messaging them can come with that.
BUT if he has the discipline to not use SC to hit on girls, that's the kind of guy I want in my life. If a guy has to use social media to hit on a girl, while that guy is in a relationship already, sends big red flags everywhere. He's still a boy. Bye boy.
Ask yourself, why does he have SC?
Why do you have SC?
If the way he is using his SC bothering you, ask yourself if you trust him.
If you do, then don't complain.
If you don't trust him, it's better to get out of the relationship. Don't settle for less, There are plenty of fishes in the sea.


Thanks,
I did trust him until this, all of the trust i have for him isn't completely lost. I feel like the trust can be rebuilt, it's just up to him to initiate it. I'm mostly just hurt and i feel like i'm sulking right now :/ I'm so hurt because I know the we both care and love one another deeply so why would he risk it all.
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He wants you to be okay with it, just make sure that he understands that it's OK if you do it too. Check out other guys, flirt with them, get their phone numbers ECT using SC or not.
If he wants to be in a relationship, he should not be hitting on other woman... using SC or not.
It is NOT okay. if he wants to act like he's single then make him single.
I've been w/ virgo ex for 7 years. I was an enabler...because that's how Leo's love. But he took advantage of that by expecting me to be okay with the things he did while I could not. I look back and wondered why I cave in instead of running away, fast. If you decide to cave in, then get mad when he does it again, you set yourself up to get mad. Just speaking from my experience.
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Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok



I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.


Don’t be digging through his stuff. I’d have done something like that just to piss you off
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immature 40 year old.
Posted by 29Leo
As a Leo woman, I wouldn't care too much because it's pretty harmless. It's social media and having a good network is good for everyone. Through his actions of not trying to hide the fact that he does have
other girls on SC, I can understand that messaging them can come with that.
BUT if he has the discipline to not use SC to hit on girls, that's the kind of guy I want in my life. If a guy has to use social media to hit on a girl, while that guy is in a relationship already, sends big red flags everywhere. He's still a boy. Bye boy.
Ask yourself, why does he have SC?
Why do you have SC?
If the way he is using his SC bothering you, ask yourself if you trust him.
If you do, then don't complain.
If you don't trust him, it's better to get out of the relationship. Don't settle for less, There are plenty of fishes in the sea.


Thanks,
I did trust him until this, all of the trust i have for him isn't completely lost. I feel like the trust can be rebuilt, it's just up to him to initiate it. I'm mostly just hurt and i feel like i'm sulking right now :/ I'm so hurt because I know the we both care and love one another deeply so why would he risk it all.
40 years old male
Can I get a do over?
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Posted by Miaou
Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok



I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.
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Don’t be digging through his stuff. I’d have done something like that just to piss you off
Captain America is my Bae ❤️
You're at a different level than he is. You're looking for a long-term partnership, he's looking to has his fill and enjoy the ride. So you need to take this relationship for what it is, temporary. Either enjoy it or leave it alone and focus on someone who has the same mindset. Young men are notorious for playing the field.

That being said, I've experienced Virgos in relationships where they blasted all over SM that they were 'happy' and 'in love', only to try and get with me through Snap or other ways. Even had one guy confess he's always had a thing for me and that he wanted to give it a shot. I asked him point blank about his girlfriend, he seemed shocked that I was aware of his GF -_- . He then proceeded to play the 'victim' card saying his girlfriend wasn't what he wanted, was cruel, she was like this ... like that ... blah blah bluh. I said ok sure, then why be with her then? If it was that much of an issue then you wouldn't be dating her, and I think you owe her that much to respect her and your relationship. He never responded and went MIA. Couple months later she was knocked up and he proposed and blasted again all over SM of 'how she was the love of his life'. ok.
Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Cancer Mercury, Gemini Venus, Virgo Mars, Libra Risi
As a Leo woman, I wouldn't care too much because it's pretty harmless. It's social media and having a good network is good for everyone. Through his actions of not trying to hide the fact that he does have
other girls on SC, I can understand that messaging them can come with that.
BUT if he has the discipline to not use SC to hit on girls, that's the kind of guy I want in my life. If a guy has to use social media to hit on a girl, while that guy is in a relationship already, sends big red flags everywhere. He's still a boy. Bye boy.
Ask yourself, why does he have SC?
Why do you have SC?
If the way he is using his SC bothering you, ask yourself if you trust him.
If you do, then don't complain.
If you don't trust him, it's better to get out of the relationship. Don't settle for less, There are plenty of fishes in the sea.
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Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


Nope.

It's more than just complimenting...

What is he doing on a dating website if he's dating op?

What is he doing exchanging snapchats with a random girl ?

He's not respectful of their relationship.


Ok

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I agree that he was not being respectful of my relationship. I've forgiven him, but if it happens again i don't think i'll be staying with him.
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Posted by Supes
Every man on this planet has told another woman a compliment while he was seeing someone. That’s just a fact. All these people saying stuff like disrespect, are hypocrites.

Now, if he starts going beyond a simple compliment and talking about specific things (tits or ass) then be alarmed.


It wasn't just a harmless compliment tho. He signed up for a dating app and is complimenting females. That shows intention to cheat.


If you read what she wrote, it was very early on when he did that and already had the app. Do you delete all that stuff after the first date?

Oh, I forgot that you’re perfect


Did he already have the app? Op please clarify. Also please clarify if 'at the beginning' means when you first started dating or at the beginning of the relationship.
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He had already had the POF dating app. We had gotten together in May and later that month, he tried to send 1 girl a message (no other girls). But the girl never responded. He didn't try to message any other girls. I saw this about 2 weeks after it happened.
The second incident was on Sunday. Bitter is an app like twitter, they were having a normal convo, then they proceeded to exchange Snapchat's. I felt like this was done so that I wouldn't be able to see what they were talking about. If you don't know, you can message on Snapchat and the messages will disappear if you don't hold it down to save it. Well the messages saved and I read them. He didn't outright directly call her beautiful, it was more along the lines of him thinking she did model work and the pictures of her are beautiful. I don't think this was anything innocent, but i know that he wasn't about to step out and cheat on me since the girl lives out in California. We live in Texas.
Posted by MiZLeo
I'll give you a very important tip my bestie gave me a long time ago for you to meditate on:

Just because you are ride or die for him, does not mean he is ride or die for you.

You don't have to put up with someone who isn't 100% with you. There are so many other men out there.


you're right. Thank you.
Posted by Chuckcem
Your boyfriend is openly disrespecting you and you're allowing him to continue doing so by validating his behavior. Putting your trust in someone who is untrustworthy will only bring you more pain. You need to start understanding your value and stop condoning this type of behavior.

You're young, so you may not see it now, but this relationship isn't worth defending. Your boyfriend knows what he did was wrong. He is using your pity and empathy to avoid the consequences. It is up to you to stand up for yourself and know when to not accept hollow excuses.


Thank you for your advice.
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