How to make a libra man open up?

Hi all, I'm new to here, just really need advice from you awesome people, I've been dating ( friends with benefits) a
27 years old female from Myanmar
Hi all, I'm new to here, just really need advice from you awesome people,
I've been dating ( friends with benefits) a libra guy (4th Oct Born) with leo moon and leo venus for 3 months now. My moon is in libra also and I'm like at least 50% libra and I can really understand them. My problem is I really want commitment ( serious relationship) from him but he does not talk abt feelings, where we stand and how he feels abt me (like me or love me). I'm so confused .. as a typical libra, he has too many friends, does not like drama and when we're in public, he introduces me to his friends as "friend" and he never treats me special in public so I always try to talk to other people and have fun on my own. It's like we are always mirroring each other ( especially from my side). I really want him to talk abt where we stand , I'm a sag and I need honesty and hate confusion. I wanna talk abt those relationship stuffs but I'm afraid if I start it, he would freak out or thinks I'm pathetic and just disappear. I've read that leo moon are quite commitment person and very attached, dunno why he's treating me like that , it's like he's a nice guy ( a bit shallow) with a lot of commitment issues. Thankz a lot for your time for at least reading my story.
First off, he's treating you like this because you gave up the goods and have settled with fwb for three months. You either go in knowing no relationship will come of it, or you don't. That's pretty much the main set of rules of fwb. Why would a guy complain about getting free nookie with no commitment? Of course he won't bring up a relationship. If it's not what he wants, then he won't go there and continue to bang you to his heart's content.

Two, you're going to have to bring it up if you want to know what's really going on. Fretting over him freaking out isn't going to get you anywhere and he will continue to have the upper hand. When Libra guys want something enough, they go after it. He's settled for being a fwb and hasn't moved beyond that. That in itself speaks volumes.

Overall, the story you gave pretty much makes it obvious where he stands. He doesn't appear to want much more than be fwb. I don't understand why you'd expect him to treat you like this is a relationship. Just because he's sleeping with you doesn't equate feelings or romance, like you've implied/half expected.

Libra guys can be warm and very lovey dovey, but at the same time, they are VERY capable of being the air signs they are- aloof and come off as cold hearted.

Try to think less with your gine and more with your head. It'll help clear this up. I've noticed that Sag women tend to jump in with their vagina first, and then want to change the rules of the game after because estrogen took over and NOW you want a relationship.
37 years old male from Upstate, South Carolina
Rockyroad is right. Friends with benefits is just that. I couldn't do it because i'd develop feelings and mess it up but evidently most guys would prefer a treetrunk buddy to a girlfriend anyway.

This made me laugh a bunch
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Try to think less with your gine and more with your head. It'll help clear this up. I've noticed that Sag women tend to jump in with their vagina first, and then want to change the rules of the game after because estrogen took over and NOW you want a relationship.
I am a very visual thinker... jump in with the vagina... what a mental image.
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Rockyroad is right. Friends with benefits is just that. I couldn't do it because i'd develop feelings and mess it up but evidently most guys would prefer a treetrunk buddy to a girlfriend anyway.

This made me laugh a bunch
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Try to think less with your gine and more with your head. It'll help clear this up. I've noticed that Sag women tend to jump in with their vagina first, and then want to change the rules of the game after because estrogen took over and NOW you want a relationship.
I am a very visual thinker... jump in with the vagina... what a mental image.
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Haha, I had the same imagery, too. I picture it any time I see a Sag female here in the same predicament. There has to be at least one every month. Yay for wanting sex and all that, but damn. Control ye self. :/
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
I've noticed that Sag women tend to jump in with their vagina.

So Sag women think with there vagina and libra men think with their penis. It would take you guys like 6 cups of coffee and four hours to finish a crossword puzzle.

Im a libra male who "usually" holds out for love. makes a man crazy sometimes... venus is all about love, not sex..."coughs". Waking up with someone you want gone is kinda horrible.
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56 years old male from Southern Ontario
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Ho won't open up if he doesn't want to I,m a libra and can be extremely closed off and stubbborn if I want to be . What I would do is plain out ask him if you don't get the answer that you want simply move on because he's just interested in the sex and not you. Better for him to disappear then for you to be stuck in a relationship thats just based on sex unless thats what you want. You made it clear that it was fwb and I,m betting thats were he is and never had any intentions of anything more..
27 years old female from Myanmar

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27 years old female from Myanmar
@rockyroadicecream Thank you for the very detailed reply. My fav part is the last paragraph , it really made me laugh cuz it's so true. Truth is he's just a foreigner who only stays in my city for a few month, he's gonna go back to his country soon. We never talked like FWB is what we are having, in fact we never talked abt what we are doing, we always lost in the good moments. We're so alike except I have those feelings for him, which he seems not have. He has most of typical libra traits ( bad ones ) like unreliable, indecisive, shallow, he's 33 and does not wanna settle down yet, hot and cold and many more and obviously it would be horrible for a serious relationship.

@lblibra and everevolvingepithet, I agree, he must be closed off intentionally, the thing is he's leaving soon and dunno when he ll be back, and we dont really have any future unless I follow where he goes, so why bother being in a serious relationship and make things hard ? Thats what he must be thinking, but I also think he's not taking effort in it cuz he does not love me yet, I've been doing everything I can to make him fall in love with me, I'm not faking anything, I'm sure that I'm naturally sweet, classy, sociable, fun, adventurous, talkative and I have not made any wrong moves yet, but things are not changing so ... it's hopeless cuz it's not meant to happen. The only answer is like just take it as it is or leave it all.

THankz a lot guys! really appreciate it

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