Understanding Libra Men

Hey! I have some issues with a Libra man. We've just met (a few weeks ago) but I was instantly smitten by him. Don't know why I believed all bullbutter as to him wanting a relationship and all. He was away for a week when we started talking. Talked every
AGSJanuary 13, 2018 2:40pm
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  • The Libra guy i was dating was so into me at first then lost interest and instead of saying that just strung me along and played so many games with me. Then when he knew i was into him backed off completely... it was a complete mind f@#*
  • AGS
    Posted by brianafay
    Buckle up

    This is just the beginning


    Haha thank youuuu but I think for me is also the end with Libra men smile))))
  • brianafay
    30 years old female
    Buckle up

    This is just the beginning
  • AGS
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    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.


    No answer to a text saying that I missed him is already rejection, isn't it?

    Plus I'm not even sure what I am supposed to say when he writes eventually. "How was your Saturday date?" : )))))) Assuming that he did not stay home and cried for me.


    Geez, someone really hurt you along the way didn't they?


    Yeeeeeep : )))))))
    I guess that is why I do not have the energy for "dating games."
    I genuinely have no idea how/if to respond when he will text and I am 100% sure he will *rolling eyes*

    Well, a word of advice which you can take or not - deal with the hurt you feel from this other person first before thinking of a relationship.

    Dating games may be just someone operating at a slower pace to you. Dating games may be someone changing their mind.

    You can't lock people in to one way of thinking because that makes us feel safe. We all feel vulnerable in relationships. We each can be hurt if our other person decides to leave. Most relationships won't work out. We have to accept that there is a high chance of failure.

    You can't flinch through life with white knuckles out of fear that someone is going to hurt you again. They may. They may not. It's the buttertier part of life that we all have to deal with.

    Each person I firmly believe is doing the best they can. This guy of yours is doing the best he can. He likely has his baggage too just like you do. If you are unable at this point in your life to give him a chance and work your way out of this without going straight to the DETACH cord, then you are not ready.

    Again, I say this as someone who used to walk around with my finger permanently on the trigger. I had to grow past it. I was able to do that with the help of my partner. I can't say what your solution will be but you can't live like you are constantly in a ball coiled in fight or flight mode.
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    Yeah, you are right. Hope I can keep all this in mind for next time.
    For now I didn't get a reply to my missing him message. He did text good morning and a lot of kisses and I tried calling him. Genuinely wanted to hear his voice and he sent me straight to voicemail.
    Oh well, at least I tried.
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    Posted by jeane
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    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.


    No answer to a text saying that I missed him is already rejection, isn't it?

    Plus I'm not even sure what I am supposed to say when he writes eventually. "How was your Saturday date?" : )))))) Assuming that he did not stay home and cried for me.


    Geez, someone really hurt you along the way didn't they?


    Yeeeeeep : )))))))
    I guess that is why I do not have the energy for "dating games."
    I genuinely have no idea how/if to respond when he will text and I am 100% sure he will *rolling eyes*
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    Well, a word of advice which you can take or not - deal with the hurt you feel from this other person first before thinking of a relationship.

    Dating games may be just someone operating at a slower pace to you. Dating games may be someone changing their mind.

    You can't lock people in to one way of thinking because that makes us feel safe. We all feel vulnerable in relationships. We each can be hurt if our other person decides to leave. Most relationships won't work out. We have to accept that there is a high chance of failure.

    You can't flinch through life with white knuckles out of fear that someone is going to hurt you again. They may. They may not. It's the buttertier part of life that we all have to deal with.

    Each person I firmly believe is doing the best they can. This guy of yours is doing the best he can. He likely has his baggage too just like you do. If you are unable at this point in your life to give him a chance and work your way out of this without going straight to the DETACH cord, then you are not ready.

    Again, I say this as someone who used to walk around with my finger permanently on the trigger. I had to grow past it. I was able to do that with the help of my partner. I can't say what your solution will be but you can't live like you are constantly in a ball coiled in fight or flight mode.
  • AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
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    Posted by jeane
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    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.


    No answer to a text saying that I missed him is already rejection, isn't it?

    Plus I'm not even sure what I am supposed to say when he writes eventually. "How was your Saturday date?" : )))))) Assuming that he did not stay home and cried for me.


    Geez, someone really hurt you along the way didn't they?
    click to expand


    Yeeeeeep : )))))))
    I guess that is why I do not have the energy for "dating games."
    I genuinely have no idea how/if to respond when he will text and I am 100% sure he will *rolling eyes*
  • Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.


    No answer to a text saying that I missed him is already rejection, isn't it?

    Plus I'm not even sure what I am supposed to say when he writes eventually. "How was your Saturday date?" : )))))) Assuming that he did not stay home and cried for me.
    click to expand


    Geez, someone really hurt you along the way didn't they?
  • AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.
    click to expand


    No answer to a text saying that I missed him is already rejection, isn't it?

    Plus I'm not even sure what I am supposed to say when he writes eventually. "How was your Saturday date?" : )))))) Assuming that he did not stay home and cried for me.
  • Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile
    click to expand


    No, most likely no choice has been made.

    You're cutting to the chase and going right to the conclusion of his indecision. My guess would be that he hasnt even got there yet.

    My advice would be to go back to the person you were when you first met.

    At this point you've become a woman who wants to throw the towel in, you're reacting in advance from fear of being rejected, this has become something that is beginning to cause you some stress.

    (I say that as a woman who has been there.)

    Just relax. Stop trying to double guess his intentions. Stop the power plays of who cares less.

    All you can be is yourself. Don't change the path you were on before you met him. Do you thing. He can decide if he wants to be part of it or not.
  • AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.
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    And by the way, I feel that you described me. I am exactly like that.
  • AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.
    click to expand


    So at this point is best to consider he made a choice by not responding, right?

    I didn't want to give the impression of playing games and I understand why I might have come across as a player.

    But if he doesn't wanna communicate, I guess he didn't care after all. Thanks so much smile
  • Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).
    click to expand


    hmm, he could be having a wobble.

    if you want decisiveness 100% of the time, then perhaps a libra is not the one for you. we overthink. we're inconsistent. especially in the beginning when we are trying to balance between running into the fire without any clothes and then panicking that we are making a huge mistake by getting involved.
  • AGS
    Posted by jeane
    ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?


    We did talk a bit earlier today. But he was colder than ever. I should say that my last message to him from yesterday was sent at 4 am when I finished working. But there is a slight possibility that his crazy mind might think I was out or something - possible reason for his coldness. We either have a huge misunderstanding here or a huge lack of interest/game. And I'm getting tired of this.

    He hasn't responded since 9 pm when I sent that message (it's 3 am here).
  • ok.

    so he hasn't responded to you today?
  • AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by AGS
    Posted by jeane
    he is mirroring you. if he want him to show more interest, you show more interest.

    if you want to be distant and not answer his texts then that's what you'll get in return.


    Ohh this is so confusing. I was mirroring his behaviour. He started answering late, so I did it too. How was I supposed to react?

    I still like the guy and not sure if all is lost. If it is, I can move on, no problem. But I wanna be sure.

    And what pisses me off the most is that he didn't ask me out again. Should I simply wait?


    just be yourself. i never understood the thinking of having to wait to respond. i just always responded.

    to not respond is to what? punish them? cause anxiety?

    if you like him, show him you like him. if you want to go out again, ask him (in a playful way) if he is going to ask you out again. tell him you'll say yes if he does.

    you have to have some banter about you. men love that butter.


    Don't worry. I did show I care and his answer was... no answer at all. I guess this is the moment in which I realise he is simply not that into me smile

    how and when did you show you cared?


    Childish me said she missed him in a message. And for the first time since we've met he didn't answer. I guess this sums up our "story" for good.

    There is a slight possibility that me saying this all of the sudden after a few days of weird conversations might appear as playing a game.

    And when you think that I was decided to try and solve this situation... Sad


    if someone said that to me after a few days, i wouldn't believe them and just think it is general chat.

    after this did you start responding to his texts less and less?
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    Noo. He was the one saying it first.

    I told him earlier today that I missed him, in an attempt of showing that I f... care.

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