So 11 years ago my ex Taurus girlfriend and I got together we dated for around 4 years. It was pretty intense relationship and we did discuss marriage but over time we grew apart. When we first started to date, we had very little in common and I guess over time those differences just moved us in different paths. As a person I still think she is amazing she just wasn’t the right person for me. We split up in 2011 and around 6 months after the break up we became friends with benefits and this lasted for over a year and she told me that she was getting engaged. It was an initial shock but I was happy for her as she always wanted to settle down.
My ex gets married and I just continued with my life until about 6 months ago when she got into contact with me asking for training and nutritional advice. I was happy to hear from her (I don’t have feelings for her anymore) and we caught up and had a laugh and it was nice. Prior to that I didn’t not hear from that girl at all except the odd Happy birthday or Merry xmas message. So my initial question is after so many years of not talking, why did she make contact with me? I know I can ask her but I know I wont get a straight forward response.
My ex knows I am seeing someone and will be getting engaged soon and she is happy for me. However when I ask her to meet up for a coffee as friends she always declines so I don’t ask anymore. She also gives me alot of relationship and marriage advice when I don’t ask for it and when I ask her how her life is and what she has been up to etc, she tells me she just goes to work, comes home and looks after her family.
Its almost like she has me in her life but keeps me at arms length, from my end I don’t have any feelings for her but would like to be mates with her.
Can any Taurus women help in shedding light on her behaviour. Thanks in advance.