Just a couple of posts from another place that I posted from and didn't get much help, so I'm going to try this here.
Post #1: Sooo I'm a little bummed. I met this guy last week, and we've been on a couple of dates, and have been texting pretty frequently everyday since, but yesterday I had a gut feeling that something was definitely up. The texting didn't seem like it did previously, and today I got a text saying, "Hi Jay. I have to tell you that I met someone recently who I decided I'm going to date exclusively. I think you're a wonderful beautiful man and I'm really happy we met and got to spend some wonderful days together. If you're interested in being friends I would love that, truly. If not, I totally understand." I'm feeling completely blindsided. I thought the dates and text conversations were going extremely well, I mean the chemistry was there, and we definitely were vulnerable with each other. Was he dating someone previously before he had met me, and decided to stick with that? I'm not sure what to think, but this is probably the worst feeling that I've had ever with dating, because I definitely saw something in him. So I guess my question is, if you've ever friendzoned someone and then regretted it later? I have this sick way of thinking that maybe one day we could potentially pick up again after being friends? I don't know. Any advice is great. Thank you.
Post #2: So yesterday (one day between being friendzoned) I had a feeling like we were connected again, it's this strange feeling that I had when we first met, and yesterday was the first day I felt it again, even if it wasn't as strong as before. I started to think about him, and put him as my thoughts into the universe again after feeling that, and he ended up texting me two hours later saying, "this is for you." and it was a photo of a shirt that I wasn't able to get at his job because they sold out of it a couple years ago. I didn't know what to think because I was so caught off guard with this situation. Do friends do this right off the bat? Did he still have feelings? Did he really regret what he had said on Saturday? Anyway I responded kindly, "Aw, thats cute. Very thoughtful of you." and he responded right away, "It's also an excuse for us to hangout next week.... If you want to" So long story short, we're hanging out on Thursday, and he said he was going to think of something fun for us to do. I don't know what to expect, and I'm trying to keep my hopes pretty low because I'm afraid he might hurt my heart again. But I'm so confused because I think this is too soon, even if it were just for friends, why bother trying to find something we had talked about on our second date?
Update #3: I think I'm more intuitive than I give myself credit for. Last night I was making a joke with some friends about that I'd probably see him on some randoms social media story, and last night that exactly happened. I had matched with someone on Tinder a few years ago, and we became Instagram friends. Last night before I was going to bed, I was looking at my stories and progressing the timeline, and my Tinder match came up, and the guy that I had these two amazing dates was in it. Friends? Date? I'm not even sure what to think.