My boyfriend does not put a lot of effort into our relationship. He barely calls or talks to me and to me its clear I’m not a priority at all. I’ve warned him enough times and now I’m trying to decide how to move forward.
I’ve been seeing this Gemini guy since June. We made it official in November. Everything was going great before September when he accepted a new position at a new job.
The guy I met in June is completely different from the guy I’m with now. It used to be that he would make time and seemed to enjoy hanging out with me...but ever since this job...he’s been more stressed and just barely fitting me into his life. It seems after we got together in Nov it has gotten so much worse...like a nosedive.
I’ve accepted that he’s busy and I can only see him maybe once a week but he barely even calls or texts me. I text him something encouraging in the morning and maybe something funny during the day and I might get an emoji at 8pm at night. He’s busy but no one is THAT busy. If we do have a conversation on the phone it’s for like 5 mins tops before he tells me he has to go.
What’s worse is...I haven’t seen him since New Years and he still makes time to do different things during the weekend. The weekend after New Years he popped up at a beach with his best friend. Didn’t tell me he was going...didn’t try and make time to see me...nothing. There are no “I miss you”s or him asking when he’s going to see me again....that’s usually me asking.
The last straw for me was Thursday night when he didn’t text me at all and I’m used to him at least liking my text or sending some emoji. I was legitimately concerned. He responded very late at night that he had a tough day and his boss wrote him up. So then I told him that I would help him with his work or do anything I could to make sure he succeeds but I asked him not to ignore me and we ended the night like that. The next day, he did the EXACT same thing...never even texted me back when I asked if things were better at work...he sent some stupid IG video at 7pm through IG but that was it.
Now, I’m in my detachment phase. He called Saturday back to back four times and sent some stupid music video...he called again and I only answered because I wanted to make sure he was okay...he said he was and I ended the phone call with him. I can’t do this...I’ve been nothing but supportive and there for him. We have a great time ALWAYS when we do hang out. But the hard truth for me here is that I’m simply not a priority to him. I’m stuck on what I should do...see if he reaches out again? Should I reach out since he called me last? This is a loose end for me and I would be willing to give him one more chance as long as he knew what my final position was...but I’m also trying to prepare myself to never talk to him again in life. Thoughts?
Sidenote: We were/are supposed to be going out of town in a couple weeks for my bday...