It all actually worked out really well. He and I were more close friends than lovers, I guess... He played his cards close to his chest and we had very little intimacy after the first month of dating. He has his own issues to contend with.
I presented him with the question of whether he thought he loved me or if we were more just close friends.
He took the opportunity to point out that he's been failing at being a good boyfriend and that I deserve better. I know he struggles with losing friends and loved ones so I tried to give him the control.
It worked out nicely, we have agreed to be good friends.