Lurking. Judging. ...I really should finish my reports.
26 years old male from Big City
Venus aquarius cap here. Sometimes it's weeks before I'm in for seeing the person I'm dating again. Recently started things with a new date and I'm sort of on the fence already because she's getting pissed that I'm setting our next date weeks away. I'm working a lot and changing schedules at both jobs to train new people and take my new position. I've also taken into consideration that she's having her exams rn and I just want to set our next date for when she's done and at least gathered herself from it after a day or two.
She thinks I'm not interested because of this. I am, but imo, there's no sense meeting if we won't both be anywhere near full function mentally/energetically when we do. I do see the necessity of meeting on occasion, but it doesn't precede making sure the time spent is well spent. What sense does it make to meet, if in my head, I'm only going to be thinking of how soon I can get back to my bed. I'm also not interested in spending extra energy when I'm in a high energy work period and I'm also not in as much of an open state of mind.
All to say, we can be interested and pretty much invested in gaining traction with the dating, but we do have priorities and an interest in making the time spent comfortable and quality. If that means we need to delay it 3 weeks and some days and only text every other day, it's no bother to us.
If you're going through something and need to talk, we'll make the time, if it's something serious, but otherwise, communication can be casual af until we gain hold of our normal, non-work brains again.