Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by hellosaggy

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by hellosaggy
men and women have been manipulating people for sex or whatever else they are after since the beginning of time.

MOST of the time its men wanting sex from a hot girl, unless she's a step above in the socioeconomic ladder.

women typically give up the goods to men higher up on the looks and/or socioeconomic ladder.

it is what it is. its life and its not fair and its what you make of it.

Now mature adults lay out what they want on the table and manage expectations. that's what you need to find,

lol @ women that feel men don't want a relationship in fear of failing. men don't want a relationship in fear of missing out on the next chick that's better than you that comes around. if a man felt you were amazing, he would stay until he found out otherwise. women have to stop believing bullshit just because it makes them feel better.

no man will turn down wifing a woman that's amazing. he might be scared to lose her but he aint going to mess it up by not at least committing to some level of a relationship.

Sex isn't enough to keep me, but bad sex is enough for me NOT to be with you. you have to have other partnership qualities than getting me off, but you better drain me in a variety of ways.

Wow. That's a cute trick how you let yourself off the hook for terrible behavior by claiming that's just life. At least you're honest (to us).

what is terrible behavior? and just because you feel its terrible behavior because you pretend to be the morality police, doesn't make it so.

I'm honest with everybody. The aqua made it clear she doesn't want to know how I entertain myself while she's off with her lesbian partner. so I don't tell her. we set rules for our open relationship. when she leaves to spend a day or two with her girlfriend, she might come back saying she missed me, or give me a sex story or two. I don't offer up anything.

This
"before, when I was jumping around. I did it for purely selfish reasons, I like the variety, sometimes you play on the emotions, to keep them accessible. I don't think men feel women are "stupid" for trusting us. its ignoring the morality of lying to someone's face, that you are supposed to - and pretend - to care about. That's more so on the man than the woman though."

I think this is the exact behavior that the OP feels she was subjected to. Maybe she's right after all, and she met someone like you who just thought you make of life what you will because everyone's an asshole.

I agree and I was telling her, that's the shit she needs to be cognizant of and avoid. don't just settle into a quiet routine that's words and no actions, because its a set up.

Some of y'all are just way too smooth. I guess there's women like that too, though.

being smooth and talking smooth are two things. I hate men that talks smooth because there isn't any substance. I'm very smooth, but I can tell you this, being very smooth costs a lot of money. A lot of times my words and actions don't match. I'll treat you amazingly, but only want you for a fwb type situation. it messes women up, because its normally the opposite. with me you have to listen to what I tell you. because I'm not going to lie to you, its just women expect lies or trying to play a game, when I am not playing.

of course if you a fwb, and we sleeping together, if you are having issues im going to help. when you stressed out we aren't going to be sleeping together lol.

most women don't like having multiple partners, so when you get a guy that looks out for you, is your friend, and you have great sex with they start settling for the side position.

The virgo I am seeing gives amazing bjs, we are good friends, she asked if we could be together (we've been fwb since october), I told her no, not at this time. she is dating a new guy since Dec, we haven't had sex in two weeks. ehhh, sucks but it is what it is.

I think your kind of smooth is more dangerous than the smooth talkers. It's easier for us to spot a smooth-talker. I don't know if you've noticed there's a mantra around here that goes "pay attention to what he _does_, not what he says!" That's clearly the wrong advice in many situations.

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Yep. because it's easy for a woman to drop a guy that doesn't do anything for you. but not a man that just doesn't commit, because a lot of women feel they "can change him"... because he's amazing. vs being a deadbeat.

this one girl, shes gorgeous, she has decent, but not great sex and she has nothing else to offer. not conversation, not cooking, not house keeping, no ambition, she wants to be a mom though.

the other night, she was like. I have a good heart, and I think I am great company. wtf, am I supposed to say to that. yeah you are pretty and you seem to have a good heart. but really you are boring/selfish, and not partnership quality?

I told her. I can't see myself settling down (didn't say with her, kept that part to myself), but if you want to see who else is out there that could compliment you, I won't stand in your way, just let me know.

obviously, trying to mitigate the situation screwed up my plans for the night, but I had to keep it 85% lol