We met a year ago at work. We worked together for a couple of months, in that time i became friends of her friends. Once at work, while sharing lunch with all of our friends, as everyone discussed work related stuff, she blowed up on me in front of everyone, saying nobody cares about my opinion, she was like really angry about it and everyone tried to calm her down. I understood she was bothered by me for some reason so i stopped talking to her. After a couple of weeks, she slowly approached, didn't apologize exactly but made small talk, letting me know she was sorry. After that, we restarted talking, in a very respectful and diplomatic way mind you, still we kept more distance between us than with other friends of our group. I tried to mend that, cause im a really friendly person and at the time she was the only one i didnt really get along with at work and out of our group of friends. But everytime i tried to get to know her, like asking about her interests and stuff, she would one word answer me. Once i even asked her to tag along with some friends of ours to a thing, she went all weird and said ok, never showed up and left us all wondering wtf happened. I took it as if she wasnt interested in really burying the hatchet.
After a couple of months she left the company, but we still saw each other at parties and friend's stuff, we barely interacted though. But at least said hi and goodbye to each other, she always ended her sentences(with me) with the word friend haha. I took it as if she knew i was kind of attracted to her and it was her way of letting me know that she wasn't.
In december of the last year, after a couple of months without any communication she messaged me, asking if i wanted to go to a concert(the concert was months away but we had to purchase tickets in advance). It took me by surprise, i was starting to get serious with this other girl and didn't want to even answer her message, so my girl wouldn't think anything bout it.
But because we had a lot of friends in common and what not i said yes, and i bought the tickets online, in advance. We didnt speak till months later, when the concert was due. We went, she brought sex into the conversation a couple of times but i didn't went down that line, even though i do find her attractive, cause i didnt want her to think i was a treetrunkboi. So we ended up talking about her family and all the stuff weve been up to all this months, never touching dating or romantic topics. It was nice, i felt like we could be at least, friends this time. I wasnt dating the other girl anymore too btw. That night we said goodbye with a kiss on a cheek(common in my country) and as usual she ended it with the word 'friend'. I chuckled on the inside.
After that night i gave it some thought and asked her out, not on a date, just to hang out, go to a theater. She said yes, then rescheduled at least three times, i got tired and said i was going to the theater with my pal.
Didn't talk for like a couple of months.
Btw she is always very dry and short with her texts and sometimes forgets to reply(im ok with it now, but back then i wasn't and always threw me off).
So yeah we didn't talk for a few months then i reached out and ask her to go to another cultural thing, she said yes, did show up, late, very late but she got there anyway. This time we talked even more about our views on relationships and stuff, we had a great time. When we said goodbye, she didn't said the word friend, i noticed, she hasnt said that word to me since either, haha.
Since then we have gone out, consistently once a month, (yeah by now i understand she needs her space, lots of it and so do i frankly). We don't text every day, sometimes weeks, but at the start of every month we go out i always initiate though, but never labeling as a date haha, by now i get her enough to know she gets super weird about this and everything related to emotions, so when i notice her getting uncomfortable i move things to lighter topics and try to make her laugh.
I am sure now that i like her and want her to be my partner, like in a serious relationship, i have a list of everything i admire of her lol. Yeah im treetrunked.
The thing is, i haven't made a move yet, i have given her subtle signs, but haven't tried to kiss her either. Like when we are about to say goodbye, she keeps it short with a kiss on the cheek. I dont ask her to text me when she arrives home, cause i know she wont(prolly forgets cause she is like that) so i text her and ask her. I dont know if she feels the same or sees me only as a friend.
So, to the aquarius woman in this forum, what do you think?
One more thing, she has never mentioned dating anyone and when she brings her phone out when we hang out(not very often) she always makes it clear she is texting her mom or something like that. Also, on my side i haven't mentioned we are hanging out to our friends in common i dont know if she has on her end.
treetrunk it i love her and I'm butterting myself cause i haven't felt this serious about someone in a long treetrunking time.