Posted by Whorpio
I guess the drama with my boyfriends momma ain’t over. I ran the most recent incidents by a best friend, and she said it sounds like le future MIL is trying to break us up.
Back in August-ish my bf was installing hidden cameras at his moms office. It was just us 3 there. My bf was getting worked up because the cameras weren’t connecting to the WiFi properly, so I read the instructions to him and he snapped at me. After he stormed out of the room his mom told me, “if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t let him talk to me like that.” I was just thinking “wtf kind of comment is that?” He didn’t say anything personally attacking me; he just raised his voice out of agitation because the instructions didn’t work. So I explained to his mom that he’s just tired & stressed and she was like “well tired and stressed ain’t an excuse to act like that. If you don’t say something now he’s going to think he can treat you like that all the time”. I feel like I should mention my bf treats me like an angel 99% of the time; it’s just the 1% of the time when he’s doing things for his mom when he gets a short rope.
I guess I just felt like she was trying to plant the seed in my head that my bf is like my verbally/emotionally abusive dad 🙄 My bf said she’s just retarded, but when I told my bff about it she said it sounds like the mom is tryna break us up.
Then, in September my bfs mom offered to pay for new tires for my car. At the time, my parents were saying they’d pay for the tires, so I told that to his mom. Word for word I said “I think my parents are going to pay for the tires” and left it at that. Fast forward to October, she’s having a convo with my bf talking mad trash about me not having a job (that she knows of), and one thing she mentioned was me “turning my nose up” at her offer to pay for my tires. And then she mentioned how if she’s going to buy my bf a condo next year (for college) I better get a job to pay some of the bills because she’s not going to sponsor a free loader. She told him he can date who he wants after he graduates, but she “just can’t support” the both of us (it should be noted I’m making bank right now, and when we move next year I’ll have more job opportunities pertaining to what I want to make a lifelong career, so there’s no reason for her to be talking trash like I’m a dead beat).
Finally, today apparently she called him and they got to talking about my boyfriends mattress. My bf wants to get a new mattress this winter so he’s going to sell our current one to his mom. They’ve been talking about this for months now, but at first he was apprehensive because he didn’t know if we’d want it for a guest bedroom. Anyways, when they were talking about it today his mom apparently said she didn’t know if he was still selling it to her because I didn’t seem like I wanted to give it to her. I was like wtf? I’ve never talked to her about our mattress situation; it’s not my business.
I just don’t understand why she talks all this shit. I don’t like when people manipulate like that, and I absolutely can’t stand when people make up things about me and go telling those fake stories to people I care about. I know my boyfriend knows the truth, but I still feel like it’s disrespectful to both of us for her to even try spinning these stories. Most of all it’s just hurtful because it feels like she’s trying to paint me like some person who is trying to compete with her or some mean person who doesn’t want anything to do with her, when quite literally I was looking up to her for a while and wishing to turn her into a second mom since my own mom lives 1000 miles away.
I understand it would be helpful to maintain a relationship with her so she buys my bf a condo next year, buuuuut at this point I’m confident I could just pay for an apartment for us and support us by myself while he’s in college. I don’t want to accept anything from her because it just gives her more things to talk shit about.
Now I finally understand why my boyfriend has hated her all these years.