I've always been introverted so I've always kept around only a few close friends at a time. One of them used to be my best friend since middle school. I've seen her go through all her phases, the ugly, religious, popular, fancy, slutty, etc you name it and have never judged her whilst every other person she's forced herself to befriend has. Through college and after we did drift apart but would catch up like no time passed. I noticed she'd surround herself with so many different groups of friends yet at times like cheering for her at her uni graduation (she changed majors a lot and graduated later than me) vs her inviting her fake friends over to restaurants that she'd entirely pay for, no one showed up to support her except me.
During my wedding last year she was one of my bridesmaids (I had only four so I didn't want a maid of honor but she self declared herself to me mine), it was great, we saw each other more often because of it. It was after my wedding that things suddenly went 180. She became way more distant than before at any point of our 10+ year friendship. I paid for all my bridesmaids' dresses, alterations, jewelry, etc so I know it was nothing related to that. They didn't have to spend a penny. She would invite me and my husband to events but would get upset if I said we couldn't make it to some of them, she would even try to change the time/dates for us. But when I tried to set up hang outs with just us girls like old times, she'd go unresponsive on me as if she's not interested in seeing me alone anymore, as if she'll only bother meeting me if my husband also comes? Like wtf. Her parents and sisters adore me and I adore them too so when I asked how they were, I'd think she'd at least get back to me on that but nope, complete ignore. Idk what else she wants from me but it makes me sad.
This is just one lengthy example, I have others. I don't get why women do this?
I miss having female friends but no one wants to be my friend 😞