Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by Firesign21Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by Firesign21Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by Firesign21
I think my heart is broken forever. I’ve known this cancer man for almost a lifetime, we went to school together, we’re in the same circle of friends, about a year ago we got closer, the relationship was very sexual but slowly we became closer friends, we would spend weekends watching movies, the sex is great too. I always welcome him, I dress well, groom myself, I take care of him when he’s around, massage him, cook for him, a whole bunch of thoughtful things. Today I told him I have a feelings for him, he told me he loves spending time with me, the fact that we’ve become close is unusual and the fact that he feels comfortable around me is a rare sighting, however he doesn’t share the same feelings and it would kill him to know he’s hurt me, he said he still wants to be friends and wants to be close, understands if I can’t if it’s too hard. I was very understanding and said it’s okay and I’m glad we can be adults about this. But is this really the end? Could he maybe change his mind? He holds me, and hugs me, and spends time with me like he’s my boyfriend.. surely this can’t be it, can it?
I'm a cancer male. when's his birthdate? Year also. And, when's your birthday?
His birthday is June 28 94, mine is March 21 93
It would be amazing to get a cancer mans perspective
Ok. I can see where the attraction is coming from for you. You're sun sign is the Pisces Aries Cusp. (Look it up separately if you're not sure of what this means). Your sun sign is part pisces. His moon sign is Pisces. This is 1 of several soulmate connections two charts can make. On top of this, your moon sign is pisces also. You both understand and can read eachother's emotions easily. Your mercury (communication style ) is pisces, and his is cancer. Perfect harmony when communicating. Your sex style is aries; quick and fierce. his is Leo; the most playful; sex style of the zodiac. Two fire signs. Perfect harmony. Your Mars is cancer, which is connected to his sun sign. That's another soulmate connection. Your north and south nodes don't match eachothers at all. Your chinese zodiac is rooster and his is a dog. Not the best. But read up on the Dog and rooster compatibility to know what to expect from him. **I personally think you should pursue him. He will eventually come around if you keep treating him the way you do. Trust me. Even if it takes a few years. Keep him in your life and always be upfront with him. Confide in him. He's extremely sensitive. You're much stronger. Eventually, when he sees how tough people are in the real world, he's gonna say a prayer you ever came into his life. Unless he's really tall and attractive, he might have a hard time finding work because he's so damn sensitive. You might have to help him out in that area. You two are so young right now. Build lasting memories with him that he'll never forget.
That’s really good insight, thank you for taking the time and sharing this, I guess I’m just confused as to what I should do, he wants to keep our friendship we share the same circle or friends and we’ve known each other since we were 11, so I don’t know if I should keep my distance, or give him space and time, if he doesn’t have feelings for me now does that mean that’s it? Do I move on, what do I do l? I’m so sad
Always take a guy at his word. Anything less will set the wrong standard for a long term relationship, trust me. Stay friends, but, keep the options open; focus on making small memories for your group of friends; movies, the first ride after your driving test, baking for your friends, the beach, the boardwalk, etc. Date around. Even if you end up with him, you'll want dating experience under your belt. Date seriously. As in, other guys, really do have a chance for the top slotin your life. Don't go in with the perspective that that position is already filled and other guys are just entertaining you until. Guys know. Trust me. You'll wreck relationships left and right.
On the plus side, I know someone, ironically with a similar chart; Cancer (June 28) Pisces moon, cancer mercury and leo venus, since high school. This girl always struck me to be like "a falling feather". A simple blow will knock her off course. So much water in her chart and so fragile. Fast forward 20 yrs from high school, and she's now 41. Majored in fashion design, couldn't hold a job because she felt she doesn't fit in and is picked on by everyone. She finally had a breakdown last year, and ended up in a hospital. She lost all her friends because she can't handle any problems by herself (too sensitive) and still brings up things that happened to her four years ago, almost everyday. If he's gonna be like that, then your life will be miserable; he'll be unemployed and a scared little child who can't handle himself. Date around, your future self might just thank you for it later on in life....click to expand