Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by Gem03Posted by Lostthoughts
Be consistant and tease him about being his girlfriend. Keep it light.
He is just being cautious. Ignore the haters.
Can I ask what your sun, moon, and venus sign are?
Also, I have known him for years he wouldn't say anything like that "lightly". I don't blame him for being cautious, I was the one who rejected him first bc of commitment issues
I have many Virgo placements aspected no less. I don't like talking about it because people put too much weight on placements and interpitations rather then the individual expressions of said person and the context. Astrology is a lot more complicated then what people think on this message board. But.... yes I can be pretty Virgo and in the past I was a stereotype version lol. I'm much more open and dynamic now but still earthy🙃
In my opinion:
Honestly if you have been friends for a while there is a risk that I'm sure he is weighing. Your dating right now though. You know it, I know it, and he might be aware What he is doing🤷
What he is doing is feeling out the relationship without the pressure and obligation a title brings. This will also allow him to pull out and salvage your friendship+ if he isn't feeling it. I suggested teasing him about being his girlfriend and keeping it light so he doesn't forget what you want and get use to and take the light dating mode he is asking for granted. Forcing people to do things causes resentment you don't want in a romantic relationship.
On a personal note. I've dated crazy and definitely left a bad taste in my mouth that took a long time to get ride of so that alone earns caution.
Personal when I look at what I am attracted to, I realise I like dynamic women and don't mind complicated personalities. Unfortunately that means I am attracted to and attract crazy(unhealthy) forms of that, which I can know spot and avoid fyi. I came to this realization and became super cautious myself because of this. I'm sure at some point after getting out of a string of bad relationships everyone questions themselves and their tastes. Some try something different or give up. I'm owning it and looking for positive expressions. Hmm I'm ranting..
Basically: Yes he is being cautious. There is 2 obvious reasons mentioned above and a few other likely possibilities. I strongly doubt he is just using you. No title gives him wiggle room but don't let him do that for long. Tease him and keep it light. You know a Virgo really digs you when they cater torwards your needs and big on communication. He will pull away if you put too much pressure and he is unsure about taking the next step. As well as if he isn't feeling it and doesn't want to hurt you. Still your call about what you are willing to accept and for how long. Feel free to talk to him openly about it if you feel negative thoughts and feeling effecting your relationship over this. Don't poison the well.click to expand