Posted by frozenintimePosted by jeanePosted by frozenintimePosted by jeane
passion wasn't there for me in an instant. i wasn't even attracted to him but i liked him as a person. he seemed like a kind, good hearted person. he made me laugh. no fanny flutters.
then slowly over time he grew on me. the more i got to know him the more attractive he became and the more enamoured i was with him. it got to the point that i became obsessed and there was an unidentifiable something between us. even now it's hard to explain. it was like a sense that i needed to be with this man.
being a libra i went backwards and forwards - did i really like him? do i really find him attractive? yes/no/maybe. is this something i want? will i change my mind? will he disappoint me when it all wears off? can i really commit to him and all that he brings? it was a more cerebral experience than anything else.
even the long term thing i didn't know until maybe about 6 months in? that's when my feelings really started to come to the party.
I have to agree the only time I fell hard before took me about 6 months In and I was very back and fourth but I also have a few Libra placements
But, idk maybe I am second guessing everything and I am also scared because he has never had his heart broke and he seems fragile.
never make a decision when in a state of fear. in this case, the fear of breaking his heart. if you are not feeling it, then you aren't feeling it. 3 months in and you should be all over each other.
don't beat yourself up. you can't help the way you feel. what you can help however, is stringing him along, even if it is for his short term benefit. in the long term you do him far more damage (not to mention, you're not being fair to yourself). if he fragile and it's his first heart break then it's your responsibility to leave him in a better state than you found him (see dan savage's the campsite rule). be considerate and sensitive. i think you will be. i get that vibe from you.
I value and respect him a lot we have a lot of history and he is my best friend.
I have had a relationship in the past where the passion came later on and I think that’s why I was trying to give it time but I fear hurting him.
It really is a hard decision because he is a good guy and treats me good and always consistent compared to other guys I’ve dealt with. But thank you for your input it’s much appreciatedclick to expand