Posted by LadymaraladePosted by Witchdoctor
What you class as “disappearing” is not disappearing in Taurus world. It is taking time out for themselves and they don’t feel they have to tell you when they are doing this! They expect you to have your own life, your own friends and your own hobbies to keep you occupied in their absence. When they are ready the will get back to you in their own good time. Do not hound them, do not chase them or ask them “where did you disappear to”. Those actions will come off as “clingy” and they do not like clingy women. They like independent women.
Also trust. You will get this kind of behaviour in the initial process of getting to know your Taurus. Once they have built up trust with you, they will be more open and the “disappearing “ will become less and they will let you that they will be busy or what their plans are etc. But you have to understand that if your Taurus is busy spending a couple of hours chatting with you one day please do not expect the same the next day or on a daily basis. Taurus needs space. In time you will understand and get to know their habits.
Also he is recently out of a marriage and so are you so why do you want to suddenly jump into another relationship! Take your time. There is no rush. Taurus is cautious. I can assure you he would have been “burnt” in previous relationship and divorce and will not be likely to be rushing into another one. So I suggest you study him and his habits as a friendship and not a relationship and take it from there one day and one step at a time. Taurus value friendships more than relationships and a good foundation of friendship will eventually solidify a relationship in Taurus world.
When he “disappears” you do the same. Get on with your life. If he is keen on you let his actions show. If a Taurus is not interested in you, you’d know. We will just simply do a “Taurus slow fade”. Also don’t keep initiating especially in the beginning by doing this in the very beginning you are setting a precedent for disaster. Don’t chase a man especially a Taurus. Choose Life instead ?
PS. I have just read that you are a Taurus and he is a Taurus with a Venus in Gemini. I am also a Taurus sun my bf is also a Taurus sun with Venus in Gemini. Venus in Gemini LOVE space. I have a Venus in Pisces. 12 months is too soon. This Venus is not a “gushy “ Venus. They like to have lots of friends, activities and are attracted to multifaceted, intelligent, independent women. They bored quick. Also being a Taurus yourself, you should be able to “tune into” his habits as he is the male version of you but with slight differences obviously. So sharing the same sun sign as him, you are already at an advantage.
I’m not sure of your friends moon sign but just “don’t fence him in”. VIGs do not like clingy. But one thing for sure with this Venus is if you ask him a direct question he will give you a direct answer. They like open communication and honesty. So tell him what you think. This is a thinking sign. Mental stimulation. It’s a two way street ie if he text you then you wait 3 days and then him. Take it in turns with communication and not just text. Pick up the phone. VIGs like equal balance. Be yourself but if you are a clingy type it will not last. VIGs love friendships, establish a friendship first.
Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write this, sincerely appreciated.
I have taken it all on board. I hadn't been back on here to check for more messages, as he had become quite regular in communication... Until he dropped a HUGE love bomb on me 8 days ago, telling me he wanted me to trust him, that he loved me, he wanted us to go the distance etc (this is all over message!!wtf?!) he was immediate with replies, often initiating, being loving for days!
He continued being happy and chatty for 2 days, then has disappeared again, this time its 5 days. But its his biggest love bomb yet!
I have left him alone, but it does annoy me. I did come clean 2 weeks ago, telling him it made me feel out to sea when he was so inconsistent... he said its just ebbs and flows, that life isn't all about the highs. This also annoyed me, because thats not what I think at all!! He's really gotten under my skin big time, and I guess I am annoying myself, as I am not usually like this with a man (being Taurean myself!). So frustrating. I have tried to cut him lose as I don't think he is good for me, I don't recognise this obsessive me. I ask him if he needs space or a break in contact and he gets annoyed?
You are right, we have built a friendship, and thats the best way to go, if we continue. I just wish he wouldn't love bomb me with his deep beautiful words, telling me he loves me etc as he sucks me in to this comfortable beautiful place, then it leaves me feeling abandoned. He is Taurus sun, Virgo moon, Aries mercury, Gemini venus, Mars Gemini, Lilith Scorpio.
May I ask you...: VIG....if they do not like clingy, why would he tell me to message without thought or worry? Also, is it true that they are more likely to cheat? This is what so many people are telling me!
We have a great mental connection, I know we are drawn to each other. Thats why he's so hard to let go of.click to expand