Hi Chuckcem, thanks for taking the time to reply! I did initially at the time say 11months out was not very long and he explained they both knew for around a year and a half things weren't right but tried (child involved) so he'd said he'd been cut off from the relationship emotionally longer than 11months.
He seems a really lovely genuine guy...... but in this day and age a lot do and to be honest on paper, id 100% say he was messing me around, however, actually speaking with him it was as if i could see the emotional turmoil he seemed to be in and he spoke so genuinely. We did have an amazing connection, both said we would only be speaking to each other because we valued the connection we seemed to have. Sounds really crazy so early on. I'm a great believer we cross each others paths for a reason, he said i made him feel the most cared for and respected that he'd felt in the last 13yrs, I hope I did and I hope it helps him on his road to recovery if that is what is happening with him because its pants when you have insecurities and you are then met by more manipulating people. Who knows, maybe he will come back, maybe he won't is what ive come up with today (even though I'm still really sad about it) he was the first person I'd opened up to in 5 years...... we both did each other a favour i suppose but maybe that, on top of his own insecurities was too much pressure for him to handle.
Honestly, leos seem lovely, loved the steam train approach, didn't like the pull back but would have loved for him to just maybe let me in and work through the insecurities as a team but I just wasn't THE one that's all....... unless theres any updates in the coming weeks but I won't sit and wait around ill just carry on moving forward