Posted by Centaur12Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Centaur12Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Centaur12Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Centaur12Posted by Libra4rmTXPosted by Centaur12Posted by Libra4rmTX
I would let her be for now bro. Try not to stress yourself out. This situation goes different for us all. Ill just say that I cant handle those type of situations. I feel like its immature to be in a relationship with someone but not want to contact them. Tbh its part of what killed my relationship with my sons mom.
Its a few things I see her that were red flags for me. But I just dont wanna be that person here. However I will say I dont feel like youre being treated fairly in this and tbh this could become habitual behavior from her.
Speak your heart. Tell her what and how this makes you feel. She cant use that " this is a front" excuse. Dont let her use that. And decide what your bottom line is too. Withholding communication is some treetrunked up butter and she knows exactly what she is doing.
I wish you the best and please dont take my post as advice but rather an angle to look at
This is exactly what I am saying its immature games and I do not want this.
I love her and we are brilliant together me and her when these stupid things happen it just ruins it.
There's no pleasing her at all.
I do not get why she can't just stop with these stupid things.
She says she wants the perfect life with me etc no life is perfect but she wants marriage and maybe a child later on with me but all she is showing me is she is not going to be able to handle it especially when she is walking out now.
Also brings makes me think when what she told me about her ex partner who she has the two children with that he use to get drunk and walk out on her every weekend.
Was it him or was it her starting it and kicking him out 🤔.
Makes you wonder.
I wouldnt think about that part too much tho I understand why you would think that.
Maybe she is still undecided about things. Making a family with ppl other than the parent can be tricky. Whatever the case, communication would help. Her silently making decisions is not healthy for what ysll are trying to build.
Completely agree 👍
Is it best to just leave her to it as I haven't text or called her myself, but that is because she walked out on me.
I know what it will be from her.
She will say I was waiting for you to contact me as I always contact you when we have an argument its always my fault and its a load of butter as I am always the first to break and run to her because I love her.
Bro I cant lie that sounds so much like emotional manipulation. But you know her better than anyone here. But Ive been thru something like this ....and I loved her with all my heart but Im finally at a peaceful place after letting it go. Do what your heart tells yoi bro
So you get what I am feeling.
She says I love you I want a child with you I want marriage and she even in the car saying little hints about me proposing or us being married etc.
Yet she doesn't want me to talk to my dad or to my sister as she doesn't like them but she doesn't even know them she hadn't had the time to get to know them.
The reason why is because she tried to control them and wanted me to stop them from seeing my little girls / baby mum when she had been in the family for 9years.
I had no problem with it as long as she wasn't there when we are and not at family ocations and my family even said my partner would always take priority.
I did try to talk to my family about this but they said its up to them and it is, I cannot control them nor would I want to.
I didn't really see much of the problem as I know I want my partner and not my ex we are both getting on with our lifes.
It's one thing after another like I said no pleasing.
Can I be honest with ya bro?
Thats all I want
My sons mom didnt want me getting close to my father. Some things youve said I went thru too. It only snowballed from there. In so many ways.....some I still hate to think about.
I read some of your old posts about this situation. I know you really love her but sometimes thats just not enough. Just reevaluate man. See if this isnreally what you want....to always be guessing, then doing damage repair just to be guessing again. Seems like you either get blames.or targeted and then sometimes the communication is just not there. Just re think this bro. It just might be something you have to accept and grow from.
Yeah your right 100% .
You understand what is going on.
It's a dam shame because I have never hand on heart felt a connection like I do with her.
It's unreal and when I look at her I know I don't want anyone else.
But she's slowly killing us and I duno what to say or do anymore.click to expand