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She was honest with you. That’s an admirable quality.
She could’ve met this other dude and not told you anything, keeping you as a backup in case it didn’t work out. You would’ve never known. Instead she was up front and honest with you.
Sometimes it’s best to date multiple people at once. Helps you realize quicker who is the best fit and what you want. I know it worked that way for me.
Don’t let your hurt ego ruin a good thing. Even if that good thing is just a genuine friendship. This is a long distance chatting thing, you are not in a relationship with her. And yet she is being more real with you then most people are with their actual partners. I applaud her for keeping it 💯
It's not about ego, it's the leaaaast thing I'm concerned about, and I know she doesn't own me a dime, if it was about my ego I would have left the 1st one or would have just thrown a tantrum and called her bull, or anything.
How can you see this as a good thing? It astonishing to me! This honestly has a word for it, it's called être de mauvaise foi. Yes I do not approach relationships with rationality or realness, and I why should? It depends on what you are looking? If it's a person with a stable life good Blah blah then yeah. If that's what you're into yeah sure go ahead. I don't want to approach relationships with a cold and calculated approach,because we are humans!!!
Are you French? Is she? I think in the French culture this behavior is seen very different to let’s say Americans, Anglos
In French culture, I can see her behavior as mauvais foi.... but not in the Anglo cultures.
Oh I didn't know this sub is full of americans
I guess that's why were having this sort of discussion
It’s got a mix, but seems to predominate with Americans, some brits and Aussies... they are similar in behavior. Are you and the Scorp French? Or different cultures (asking bc you both met online). If different cultures, that can add to the confusion.
I know French are much more serious about formalizing relationships... where as the anglos are much more relaxed about that and so much more grazing and testing waters (lots of deep testing).
Yes definitely French, as for me let's say that I have a mix, since Im from a neighboring country and, yeah I lived in Paris, it's not far away from where she lived. I thought I gave context before, I specified it was Europe. I I hate testing and the idea of making calculations about humans. Its.... You're not a machine or an calculus program.
Then I have to apologise to you for making assumptions. @mareinframe is correct. The cultures are different. Maybe try being a little more outspoken with your interest next time around. Subtle can make people feel like you are not that interested.
Yeah, culture plays a huge part I believe... they don’t have the same dating habits we have in the US. Most don’t even date! They go straight to committed relationships - whole different ball game.click to expand