Posted by Virgodvn Posted by Undine Posted by Virgodvn Posted by DonnaLibra
Maybe he wasn't so keen on the sex and isn't in a hurry for a repeat. I always tell girls if you are going to have early sex with a guy make sure you give him something he won't forget anytime soon. Otherwise you may be looking at a ghost.
I don't think tha t was the problem to be honest...
Don’t even think about the sex! People saying such things probably don’t remember how awkward their first time with someone new was. Second date it is early, but not “too early”, considering that the majority are doing it on a third date.
I suggest you ask him directly about meeting this Saturday. Perhaps he gave you space, because you practically asked for it, saying you were busy. Perhaps he has something planned for this Saturday, and feels conflicted, to cancel or not to cancel. Or perhaps he realised you are not the one for him, which has something to do with his personal preferences, rather than being a negative reflection on you, or your behaviour. If you want to know the answer, ask him directly, without hesitation.
Yes you are right, it's better to ask directly and to know where I stand... But somehow I already know that probably he is not interested anymore from how he is reacting. I feel a little disappointed because I think it was an act from the start.. But it's my fault for trusting too early.. Another lesson learned 🙁
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The most useful lesson one can learn in dating is to avoid assumptions. He is not you, and you are not him. At this moment, you probably appear to him as disinterested as he does to you. Who blinks first loses face, eh...? Leave such games for teenagers.
You don't lose anything by asking politely if he is busy this Saturday. There is nothing wrong with being honest about what you want, even if it's not what he wants. It shows that clarity is important to you, and that you have the guts to ask for it.
