Posted by LadyNeptune
You've already gone through domestic violence in your previous relationship.
The way he is treating you reeks of the start of domestic abuse as well. You did nothing wrong.
In your own words, he was being a dick towards you, shouting at you, and you told him jokingly to go suck a dick. Why is it your actions hold so much weight but how he was treating you doesn't?
You are apologizing and only thinking about his hurt feelings and he has you worried about losing him (he's not going anywhere). When really the conversation should be centered around him taking accountability for his cruelty towards you as well.
But abusers never admit to their wrongdoings. They just shift the narrative and paint themselves as the victim.