Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by Scotteh007Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by Scotteh007Posted by saggurl88
Was what wrong of you? Pretending to be her friend?
Depends on if you regret being her friend after she’s friendzoned you for so long.
I dont understand...we talked about literally anything and I was okay with it. Her exs to heck whenever she was on the rag. I feel like I might of helped her get over some things she had going on.
Do I regret it? No. I feel like I can communicate better with other people in my life.
Is it weird now? Yeah kinda but I feel like I learned a lot.
"Do I regret it? No. I feel like I can communicate better with other people in my life.
Is it weird now? Yeah kinda but I feel like I learned a lot."
^^this right here, you are learning from interacting with her this way. If she really is your type, you are learning a lot about your type without the pressures associated with dating.
Even better your learning to interact with a woman in a everyday manner that will be very good experience for when you get in a long term relationship and the romantic stuff cools off and your spending a lot of time together. For lack of better phrasing it "demystifies" the opposite sex.
As for the weird part, it takes some getting use to, it's not socially common. You are use to treating them and talking to them to pursue. That's takes some time getting use to not doing that.
Just keep your boundries up and remember you are just friends. Meaning your obligations don't extent beyond that. Don't start acting like a boyfriend, hitting on her, or allowing her put the same obligations on you as a boyfriend would have. Biology will rear it's ugly head from time to time. That's just something you got to learn to deal with as a gut in general.
Honestly a lot of people including myself prefer to be friends first. My personal philosophy as a man with female friends is: " If I like you then I like you. if we will not work out romantically I get a friend out of it."
Like I mentioned above one of the benifits of taking it slow from the fried zone is...tons of experience without the train wreck relationship history. It was not my intention to do this at first now I actively follow this approach.
On the bright side, I have close friends I can get advice from about woman and have a greater understanding then the majority of men out there.
I know what I want and need in a partner too without learning the hard way. I'm confidant I can make any relationship I choose to have a successful one.
So ya good on you for seeing the
"If I like you then I like you. if we will not work out romantically I get a friend out of it"
Uh yeah... I have a problem. This has happened before. It gotten so bad after telling me no she started climging onto other people to try to get the point in my head.
That hurt a lot.
She would not do that intentional unless you really were not getting the message in her eye, ad in you didn't change your behavior. It's a common passive aggressive tactic. Usually they try that first before ghosting you.
Another is avoiding being alone with you or in any situation that could be consider a romantic thing.click to expand