The Sun in the partner’s 11th house of a synastry overlay creates an atmosphere of friendship between you. Your relationship usually begins as a friendship, or as “friends with benefits.”
In this relationship, you tend to accept a “no strings attached” arrangement from the beginning. The Sun person sees the 11th house person as someone they can hang out with.
With the Sun in the partner’s 11th house, both partners can enjoy a rewarding and hassle-free relationship without a lot of nitpicking. You treat each other in a friendly, non-judgmental manner. Other couples may wonder how the two of you get along so well.
You accept each other’s differences and flaws. You tolerate their idiosyncrasies. Because you create this non-judgmental environment, you both feel free to confide in each other regarding any problems or anxieties that you face.
You are good sounding boards for each other’s pipe dreams — you encourage them rather than put them down.
Even in marriage, you have the tendency to treat each other as friends. This is not a deep, emotional overlay for relationships, but a positive one, nevertheless.
I have not drawn up my husband’s chart so I don’t know how it is the other way around. But this is accurate in the sense that friendship is central to our relationship. I don’t know about him but there was never any infatuation from me towards him. Everything’s always been easy going, steady, consistent and stable. I found it emotionally healthier than all the times I was overwhelmed and obsessed with someone. Before marriage a shaman had mentioned my husband was a good person but I have a huge obstacle (my MIL but F her, that never stopped me). Not everything’s been perfect or rosy at all but I’ve learned to turn anything negative into positive. Nothing can stop me from cultivating what I want. Your mindset is the only thing that matters, nothing else.