Likely something initiated by them. I think it could be from having a strong Scorpio moon in the 5th house. Venus is the strongest placement in my chart though. I tend to be shy, and not the type to go out of my way to date. Women who make it obvious make me feel less shy and awkward in general. That is an instant turn on for me. Otherwise, I wouldn't even notice them whatsoever.
After that whole ordeal is delt with, it wouldn't really matter what we do. I'm pretty adventurous, and down for pretty much anything. I'm easy to please, and don't really expect a whole lot from people. As long as they aren't a leech or draining I can get along with pretty much anyone. The second I feel like I'm providing everything and being manipulate/ taken advantage of however, I vanish like it never happened. Which is unfortunate because I'm good at providing, and very giving in every department of life and love. I also deeply think about a woman's needs equally to my own. Because of that I find it easier to not date, or really try. I guess I'm admitting to becoming extremely vulnerable when dating, and my Scorpio moon in the 5th house mixed with my other placements is not a fan.