Thanks Guys and particularly LL for sharing your story...I believe that on occasion she smokes majuana but dont think she does anything further. She started to drink or wanting to when she was younger and I felt guilty because that is my thing and what I have always done around the home...but she doesnt really like it much so she very rarely bothers.
I think it is to impress, a few years back she was caught on camera with a friend stealing from a shop in a small town where my ex and I had a holiday bach...he dealt with it as we had moved on to Australia, so she never really learnt the lesson and had to own up to it and has stolen again but not been caught. I've warned her sooo many times that now at this age she will go to juevenile detention and I wont be bailing her out...I hope it hasnt fallen on deaf ears but she is always coming over with new items of clothing and yep, her bf's mother has bought it for her!!! She has just started a job part time so hopefully this is the change in her.
I will sit her down and go through it all once again of how I feel and also tell her that she isnt to be at my home unless I am around, taking away that priviledge and taking my key back! Apart from once again re-hashing the fact that what she is doing is very diappointing to me there doesnt seem to be much else. Everytime I do tell her she is up with the same answer, I didnt take it...I'm accusing her and I dont have proof so it doesnt register!!
