Popcorn is best for these kinds of occasions. Carry on folks =)
I agree with the original post from the poster. Suddenly disappearing all b/c you don't have the guts to break the news to your partner is passive-aggressive. If anything, in the name of CLOSURE, it's always important that the other person atleast be made aware of where the relationship/friendship stands, even if 1 or both people don't even want to be in the relationship/friendship anymore.
I do however think that breakups should be as clean & simple as possible. No long speeches about why you're getting dumped or doing the dumping. No insults or bouts of disrespect should be spewed at the other person. Even 2 people who have done eachother completely wrong, deserve to have some formal closing when things are over, just in case someone persay needs to start healing asap, vs. still assuming they're in a non-working relationship.
I don't think people should overdo it when they break up with you by saying things they don't mean and/or that could possibly hurt the other person. But I mean hey, if a person is that serious & content with ending a relationship it's contradictory for them to disappear w/o saying so b/c doing so shows that you aren't as content with leaving that person like you claim. When a person stands by their decision full heartedly they usually keep their head held high when making certain decisions. A person who claims to be content with someone/something but yet doesn't have the guts to tell the other person where the relationship stands, clearly wasn't ever content with their situation.
Some men feel they are actually doing women a FAVOR by just up & walking away w/o so much as ever speaking to her again. They assume that them breaking up with a woman means that they'll have to deal with watching her cry, or spit venom at him for breaking her heart, etc. And since men generally love to avoid both of these things anyways, they believe that disappearing gives a woman the opportunity to read b/w the lines & be less hurt by doing so vs. them actually just being direct & real about things.
I think everyone deserves closure. Breaking up with someone w/o telling them is just as tacky as breaking up w/ someone over a text message.