I have a virgo friend, to hear him tell it he is MADLY in love with a female companion of his. He WONT be with her because he has a lot of messes in his life that he wants to straighten up. He'll call me talking nonstop about how much he loves her and loves doing for her and hes already got her Valentine's gifts ordered, awaiting delievery. But he WONT be with her, saying with all belief, that he has nothing to offer her. I of course think hes completely insane and keep urging him to be with her....and now Im starting to think that he is using his not so perfect life as an excuse for his insecurity....this guy might be the same way, so maybe you'll have to take the lead if you DO want to be with him....but I kinda agree that if you cant respect his emotions it might not be worth it.
I think Virgos fall hard and fast, and until they get a chance to think it through logically they will send mixed messages and go back and forth. And even then when the logic and emotion battle it out, you might just be caught in the middle. truely sucks