The virgo you are speaking of sounds much like myself. As sv said, we Virgos can never win. If we take time to ourselves to think over our situation, we're being too distant and not expressing ourselves; I can already hear the stereotypical lies about Virgos being "frigid" and "heartless". Yet, when we act true to ourselves, and perhaps come on a bit too strong, we're equally as bad. Someone has to make up their mind as to what they want!