Posted by jru2
Anyways, I'm trying to be straight up with the girl I'm with now. I've already ruined a couple of evenings talking about how someday we might have to experiment with other people. She don't like the idea, but at the same time, I totally see her as being like I get a few years into a relationship ... a little bored, maybe feeling neglected, and bam ... a wonderful op presents itself! I don't think she will be able to resist any more than I, so why don't we just be upfront about it and give each other a pass? Then at least we know that no one is sneaking around on the other lying. For me, that's just the easiest way for me to trust her ... she has the freedom to do whatever the hell she wants, so why wouldn't she always be honest with me about it? Of course, I would expect to be able to enjoy the same freedoms from time to time.
You can't change the way someone feels just because you want them to be this way, you say you've already ruined a couple of evenings suggesting your relationship takes this route. Obviously this girl you are with prefers a monogamous relationship!
I myself prefer to be monogamous and if my partner suggested this to me, I would naturally become suspicious and jealous that it was already happening or that he had someone already lined up to do the wild thing with. Think you may have already caused irreversible damage to your relationship with this chick!
You are better off finding someone that already shares your view and checking it before you enter a relationship because it's not for many woman.!
