I understand what you are saying, however, real people feel in situations like this and no amount of reasoning will prevent this.
I myself 6 months out of a split, walked right into my ex with a new girl. I didn't have those negative thoughts towards her but 2-3 months earlier I might have??_ and 2-3 months earlier you wouldn't have been able to reason with me over it. It's a process and one, each person will come to terms with in their own time. At 3 months it would have been too early for me and I was still wondering what went wrong and why he didn't want us. By 6 months, I had opened my eyes to so much more and the realisation was more excepting of the split.
And then again, some woman may only feel better if they think that he hasn't done as well. To some this would mean a lot and also it may help them to move on themselves. Whatever floats their boat.
I would liken your advice to reading a book on how to successfully raise a child??_.when we know that no book will ever be able to illustrate this perfectly. Maybe its the way you write
