My mother has similar tendencies and particularly to my step dad who just takes it mostly. I use to sit back and say nothing but not anymore, she gets jealous of the time he gives to me and my brothers helping us in daily things around the house on weekends, as a real father would. It's time taken away from her she views it as... However, he is left alone on numerous occasions when she goes to bingo and that can be often on weekends. These days if she's cutting with her words I tell her so, sometimes at the time or sometimes when she's moaning to me about him. It has helped a little, she understands some of the things she does but I honestly think it is embedded so deep she can't change and I won't let that effect my relationship with her as it use to. And yes the apple doesn't fall far from the tree as I find myself saying horrible things at times when I'm frustrated with my own children and I have to admit I can be like my mother.. Not an easy thing to admit you already see it as a bad quality! She is a scorp too, nov 5th. My dad and I are libra.