@lovedovex3...my brother and his current were definitely in a relationship, but she made the effort to see him more than he made the effort to see her. They are both Taurus suns. I think that most men don't respond well when they are being pursued relentlessly by a woman without a relationship already being in place. I believe that mature men respect a woman's initial pursuit, but if he's not showing mutual interest, most men want to be left alone...they hardly say it though. Imagine the ego boost when overall men are so used to approaching women and expect to be rejected. Then all of the sudden, they have a woman showing interest in them. Most men aren't going to tell the woman to go away. The sad part is that even if he doesn't want HER, he wants the attention bad enough that he'll pull on the woman to get her back. It's when she starts making demans or asks for him to inconvenience himself for her sake that he'll decide to let her go on about her way.