I am an Aries. I admit to being jealous and controlling sometimes.
Been dating a Virgo male for a while now and things are pretty serious at this point. It is a same-sex relationship. The problem is, one of his exes messaged him with some explicit texts. I don't know what to think. He lies a lot about small things and I always catch him. I have the password to his phone--he gave it to me.
Long story short:
His ex hurt him really badly about 3 years ago His ex texted him recently He responded saying he was willing to meet up and talk (i saw the text) He called me and told me all of this
THEN when I told him to just drop it and tell his ex to stop texting because you are now in a relationship, HE REFUSED and said that he needed to see his ex face to face in order to get closure by saying something along the lines of "you lost this, and now i am with someone much better and you can never have me again". (He is out of his ex's league and i am much better looking, being honest)
He literally allowed me to drive him back home from restaurant, get in this huge fight that lasted 3 hours and then FINALLY sent "not interested" to his ex reluctantly.
THEN I find out he texted his ex again after i left. (I have phone password, so the next few things are confirmed) But the ex threatened to block his number if he didnt respond that night to meet up He didnt respond His ex blocked his number and that was the end of that convo.
My boyfriend got really mad at me and said i forced him to do something my way when he wanted to handle it his way and get closure from that situation. He called me controlling and said he was pissed at me.
I don't know if he is just being dramatic to cover up lies (he has done this in the past) or if he would genuinely need to "tell off" his ex this bad even if it made me so mad.
i admit that I can be ridiculous and immature/insecure sometimes but is this one of those times? Or is my Virgo whom I love dearly trying to pull a fast one?