I also want to add something that I was reluctant to add but it may be valuable. This has been an extremely rough time for our relationship because he recently attempted suicide and was committed to a psychiatric hospital for two weeks. He has since gotten the necessary treatment (diagnosed bipolar depression) and is stable. It has been a heart wrenching experience for me and my emotions are all out of wack. This ex situation is just unnecessary given all that we have going on right now.