Posted by WalkergrlPosted by EveryOuncePosted by IridessariesPosted by EveryOuncePosted by IridessariesPosted by EveryOunce
Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.
He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.
He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again
This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.
You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?
Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life
Even after coming to your realization you're still making him the vain of your existance. So what he left? Good it easn't a healthy situation. You just miss having someone to coddle. You have got to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It is not you it is him.Count your lucky stars and work on you for a while before dating again.
"He will always leave and hurt people because he is a damaged man."
Experienced this off and on for 6 months. Messes with your head. In recovery now. SMH
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You are all right. And yes now comes a period of loving myself first. He was a wake up call and I heard the phone ring, big time. So despite the pain and confusion I am grateful for this experience. I noticed today how my body actually stutterd when I had to say "no" and I spoke my true inner feelings.
The only thing that sucks is I still have the christmas gifts for him and his kids staring me in the face. A friend will pick them up later.
I will not go back to him, I can say that with certainty. He is damaged and he almost took me down with him.
Let lose, be yourself, vent it all out if you must. Fellow Stingers and Scorpion Dominants, this is your place to go cra
Any positive experiences? I’m a Scorpio sun, Aries moon gal dating an Aquarius sun, Capricorn moon man and I adore him. There was a bit of conflict initially, but we definitely seem to get along better and better as time passes. We always come to the same