You see the pattern. We like dysfunction... it just isn't healthy. we like playing with fire and it peaks our curiosity and our desire to figure out what is wrong with this person and how we can get them to do better. I personally don't like forcing someone... I like the ones that just haven't really caught a break.
I don't want to make them dependent, I just want to be a stepping stone to them, I don't expect to keep them around anyway... that was the way I was for all my relationships but my last one.
Helped a few get back in school, learn certain subjects. strengthen their self-esteem. One hurt me really bad, but for the most part they all come back saying I was one of the best things that ever happened to them.
Yeah technically its makes them dependent, but its really to build them up so they can move forward with their lives.
I realized I shouldn't take on too hefty a project because it can take longer than I expect and I might be stuck like the US trying to get out of Afghanistan