Oh it's not bluffer's remorse at all. I'm done with the back and forth from the last few months.
Yes, it is true. I don't want her as a buddy/friend. I'm dating now and I'd drop them all for her, but not for this crap that we've been doing the last few months. Seeing and talking to her still pulls at me. It's either you are in or out. Trust me its not one-sided. She won't drop the bf so its good-bye. She's even joked with me about past things we've done sexually and on our travels.
She feels like we shouldn't stop talking because we have great chemistry and similar interest, so we should be friends at least. that's not a damn compromise.