If you are clear you are interested @unusualvaginaldischarge and guys use you. I feel sorry for you.

if you play along thinking its going to evolve. that's on you.

I'm upfront with my lack of desire to commit, I don't play games. If my position softens, its because I made the decision.

it would take a really special woman to get me to change my position, and that will come from her differentiating herself through time... not just a fun one, that I can have sex with, because there are plenty of them.

in a relationship:

some men want a woman that's like their mom
some men want a woman that's not like their mom
some men want a porn star
some men want a traditional relationship
and
some men want a partnership
mostly all men want a woman they find pretty and fun.

its the woman's responsibility to ensure she protects herself or at least figures out what motivates the man and see if you fit it, not try to change yourself to be it.

if you don't it won't involve into anything other than what it is.