Posted by bumboklatt
Well its interesting thinking your calling out their soul cause you call their name. Like some vodoo lol
Posted by dilettante
... do you not do it bc it feels too intimate?
Posted by alexscaries
... not even during sex?
Posted by MyStarsShine
Why would people think using someone's name is intimate lol....?
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Posted by saggurl88
don't call people by their name?
Even when dating or just texting a person, I always stick with "hey" When someone calls me by my name, it sounds so foreign and proper to me and I don't understand why they are using it. Like I'm in some type of trouble or something.
When having casual conversations, I will say your friend with the red car- even though I know their name.
At work, I just address the person I'm talking to by standing directly in front of them.
It seems like I'm being too personal and vulnerable by using an actual name, so I choose not to.
Is this weird?
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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I've never liked names (not even mine) let alone calling someone their own name. Always get a cringey feeling when having to do that. Kind of like scratching fingernails on a chalkboard.
I feel it's a limitation, a label, an injustice to the limitless greatness that each one of us as a soul represents.
I'm good remembering faces though which comes in handy!
Posted by but_didyoudie
I don't think its weird... i think there is a whole physiological strategy when using peoples names....
like you get lost and you need to call out their name... by that time your brain would have already registered the person's name otherwise you wouldn't be calling their name...
or you want to make someone feel closer to you or special... like when you need something and you look at a person's name tag and make the request more personal by adding in the name...
i think names are learned for the proper functioning of day to day activities.... so if that person's name is not required for your survival then your brain wont register their name. maybe that's an extreme example but i mean our brains can only hold so much information and we HAVE* to narrow things out to whatever helps us survive in our own* way. 🐣
Posted by applecherrypie
Lol I do that but not consciously. Sometimes I'm so into the habit that I get anxious that I somehow have mixed up their name or that I will mispronounce it... So then I completely avoid saying it.
I was once friends with this girl in high school for weeks, hanging out everyday, before I realized I actually had forgotten her name. 😬
I have gotten better since then but names are still tricky for me. I tend to remember random facts about people before I remember their name.