Shaniajam
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Posted by BlackMambaGood deal... Thank you. Plan in motion ðŸƒðŸ½ðŸƒðŸ½ðŸƒðŸ½ I'll update yall.
no status updates, but pics of you having fun, hanging out with friends, going on dates.
why do you want him back? did you dump him and now he doesn't care/is doing well?
Loving me, loving life...that's all I got!
Along with some sexy ass pic of you going out and having fun 😉
Along with some sexy ass pic of you going out and having fun 😉
Posted by MetaphysicalI did dump him after he said he doesn't want a relationship but he's a cancer and I know it was his mood... And I rode the wave instead of giving him space. He doesn't like titles... He likes flow and I knew that.... I got scared to lose him and pressured him... If he doesn't come back then I learnt my lesson but I'm gonna try. But I won't be contacting him cause the last time we broke up I did though he was happy and told me he was in love with me and drew me in. This time of he doesn't come to me that will be the end.
why do you want him back? did you dump him and now he doesn't care/is doing well?
Posted by KoniuchaExactly why your opinion is not needed. I said not to judge. Carry on...you don't know what's in a person's heart
This seems like a lot of work for some guy that blew you off for 8 months.
Posted by crabRiotYesssss ❤❤❤ Love it!! Thank you!
Loving me, loving life...that's all I got!
Along with some sexy ass pic of you going out and having fun 😉
If its a cancer you don't need to do anything they wallow in their own suffering and eventually give in to their emotions.
Plus I did say it may not work @koniucha I'm still living my life regardless.
Posted by WeedsKind of figured... Thanks! I'll just be me and hope for the best. ❤❤❤
If its a cancer you don't need to do anything they wallow in their own suffering and eventually give in to their emotions.
Posted by WeedsI really do HATE that you're right 😢
If its a cancer you don't need to do anything they wallow in their own suffering and eventually give in to their emotions.
Posted by KoniuchaLmao I won't even entertain you...learn to read to comprehend not just To respond... Good day ❤❤Posted by ShaniajamUh ok. Don't post on a public forum then, kPosted by KoniuchaExactly why your opinion is not needed. I said not to judge. Carry on...you don't know what's in a person's heart
This seems like a lot of work for some guy that blew you off for 8 months.click to expand
Guys please don't fight, its never that serious.
Posted by BlackMambaIt would take the whole day... To explain. He has done this and came back it ain't the first time. But I won't bother explaining but it is exactly what you asked..Posted by Shaniajamhow did you dump him if he doesn't want a relationship? lolPosted by MetaphysicalI did dump him after he said he doesn't want a relationship but he's a cancer and I know it was his mood... And I rode the wave instead of giving him space. He doesn't like titles... He likes flow and I knew that.... I got scared to lose him and pressured him... If he doesn't come back then I learnt my lesson but I'm gonna try. But I won't be contacting him cause the last time we broke up I did though he was happy and told me he was in love with me and drew me in. This time of he doesn't come to me that will be the end.
why do you want him back? did you dump him and now he doesn't care/is doing well?
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Posted by crabRiotAnd just like that... I'm done lol... Good parting words
Guys please don't fight, its never that serious.
Posted by crabRiotLet's turn on Weeds instead :X 😄
Guys please don't fight, its never that serious.
He's a leo moon I'm a Taurus moon someone has to back down off the high horse lol. I did last time and so it's his turn or never lol.
Posted by crabRiotPosted by crabRiotLet's turn on Weeds instead :X 😄
Guys please don't fight, its never that serious.click to expand
Lmaoooo pass the remote
Posted by BlackMambaNot where I look down at cancers.. I look down on the lack of communicationPosted by Weedstrue, why do you look down on us for this?
If its a cancer you don't need to do anything they wallow in their own suffering and eventually give in to their emotions.
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Posted by WeedsGood one.Posted by BlackMambaNot where I look down at cancers.. I look down on the lack of communicationPosted by Weedstrue, why do you look down on us for this?
If its a cancer you don't need to do anything they wallow in their own suffering and eventually give in to their emotions.
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Hmm. When I used to want to talk to Mr Sagman, I'd do it through music. I'd suggest to keep subtlety in mind with this endeavor. You run the risk of looking desperate.
Yes music good gesture. I shall be careful what I choose.
Posted by ShaniajamSounds very passive aggressive to me.
Ok don't judge me... What updates can I put to lure my ex back eventually.. I know to seem happy and hot and sexy...I got that down pack.. For instance I post a pic of me with inspirational quotes cause I'm an entertainer... But what quotes can I put to Make him think of me? And yes I know it may not work... I'm also keeping busy... But it's time to show my face after being missing and people feeling and thinking I'm down for 5 days now.
Let's hear them and thanks guys! This may help someone else too.
Posted by Weedslol!!!
If its a cancer you don't need to do anything they wallow in their own suffering and eventually give in to their emotions.
Sadly, that's true from my observations.
Leo Moon? Post some drama on social media. That'll get his curiosity peaked.
Posted by starloverTrue but I'm not ready to give in yet.. He was still wrong. I want him to come to me.
Would it be better for you to write to him, telling him you would like to see him again, rather than do the status thing which may come across as being a bit silly?
🙂
Posted by truecapLmaooo
Leo Moon? Post some drama on social media. That'll get his curiosity peaked.
Posted by truecapYes lol all for a passive aggressive man lolPosted by ShaniajamSounds very passive aggressive to me.
Ok don't judge me... What updates can I put to lure my ex back eventually.. I know to seem happy and hot and sexy...I got that down pack.. For instance I post a pic of me with inspirational quotes cause I'm an entertainer... But what quotes can I put to Make him think of me? And yes I know it may not work... I'm also keeping busy... But it's time to show my face after being missing and people feeling and thinking I'm down for 5 days now.
Let's hear them and thanks guys! This may help someone else too.click to expand
Posted by exoAny suggestions?Posted by cheekyfaeriethis works. subtlety and a bit of mystery is key.
Hmm. When I used to want to talk to Mr Sagman, I'd do it through music. I'd suggest to keep subtlety in mind with this endeavor. You run the risk of looking desperate.
songs with a sneaky reference to him that he'll analyze to death. mindfuck ensues.click to expand
Posted by exoHe loves Sade and new edition.. One song he always make me listen to is new edition if it isn't love... Among other songs we always used to share for hours together. Man I miss that. But yeah.
do you and him have any songs?
Posted by exoI wonder if everyone looks into lyrics in the songs people post and tries to figure out a hidden message.Posted by cheekyfaeriethis works. subtlety and a bit of mystery is key.
Hmm. When I used to want to talk to Mr Sagman, I'd do it through music. I'd suggest to keep subtlety in mind with this endeavor. You run the risk of looking desperate.
songs with a sneaky reference to him that he'll analyze to death. mindfuck ensues.click to expand
So much delusion. Well I am guilt as well but still.
Posted by RainDancerLmaoooo,, I thought about that many times.. However the no contact rule says that's exactly what not to do as your ex will know he has you right where he wants you... In your feelings. Like right now me posting he suspects im sulking which is why the next posts and updates need to be cheery and confusing lol
I think the biggest lump would be to delete your social media. It says the most without saying anything at all.
But that's not what you wanted to hear 😢
Posted by DamnataI was thinking the same thing lolPosted by exoI wonder if everyone looks into lyrics in the songs people post and tries to figure out a hidden message.Posted by cheekyfaeriethis works. subtlety and a bit of mystery is key.
Hmm. When I used to want to talk to Mr Sagman, I'd do it through music. I'd suggest to keep subtlety in mind with this endeavor. You run the risk of looking desperate.
songs with a sneaky reference to him that he'll analyze to death. mindfuck ensues.
So much delusion. Well I am guilt as well but still.click to expand
Status updates about how much fun you're having etc. etc. might actually drive him away. I am a Cancer, I know lots of Cancers, IF we want to come back (because honestly sometimes we can just let go and never look back and then justify/come up ourselves by remembering everything negative about you.)
If we see you're having fun, and may not be wallowing around like us, we will go have fun. And since we are easily charmed, someone else may come up in our little fun adventures and we may get swept up with them.
If we see you're having fun, and may not be wallowing around like us, we will go have fun. And since we are easily charmed, someone else may come up in our little fun adventures and we may get swept up with them.
come up with *
Posted by exoGreat idea lol thanks!Posted by Shaniajampost one of those songs. at the very least it will trigger some memories. 🙂Posted by exoHe loves Sade and new edition.. One song he always make me listen to is new edition if it isn't love... Among other songs we always used to share for hours together. Man I miss that. But yeah.
do you and him have any songs?click to expand
Posted by CG04Ok point taken... So what I will do then is curve it. I always post pictures but I don't specify where I'm going or who I'm with I just post in different outfits and different scenes. I have a new hairstyle and am gonna be busy with events this week so I'll have pics to post... Is this good enough. Tell me from a crab stand point what's just enough?
Status updates about how much fun you're having etc. etc. might actually drive him away. I am a Cancer, I know lots of Cancers, IF we want to come back (because honestly sometimes we can just let go and never look back and then justify/come up ourselves by remembering everything negative about you.)
If we see you're having fun, and may not be wallowing around like us, we will go have fun. And since we are easily charmed, someone else may come up in our little fun adventures and we may get swept up with them.
Posted by RainDancerYou know What? You right! The last time I was me. I posted my quotes like I normally did got busy in work and music... (Made most of them positive and upbeat) and didn't let his mood or posts affect me... When two weeks passed I contacted him and it was like he couldn't wait to hear from me and then told me he was in love with me... The only difference is this time I won't contact him only because even though I was mad I told him how I felt and he didn't respond.,. Instead he went on social media with subliminal messages. One stuck out the most saying I'm not afraid of commitment I just won't be controlled... Somehow he thinks I'm controlling him... I mother him a lot and I buy him things a lot and I think it's just the Taurus in me... So if he does come back this time I will let it flow and not hover him so much. I just want to love him, but maybe I was suffocating.Posted by ShaniajamBut by assuming what he will think, it makes your actions disingenuous.Posted by RainDancerLmaoooo,, I thought about that many times.. However the no contact rule says that's exactly what not to do as your ex will know he has you right where he wants you... In your feelings. Like right now me posting he suspects im sulking which is why the next posts and updates need to be cheery and confusing lol
I think the biggest lump would be to delete your social media. It says the most without saying anything at all.
But that's not what you wanted to hear 😢
By being you, unfaltering, shows more strength and self respect than anything else.
And believe me, I've been there, that's why I deleted my social media, I felt it lacked authenticity. And I want to be known for who I am despite what people think.
No one will define me. That's how idoltry works.
Just be you. Who you are is valuable and deserving of love.
Why not just reach out and say what you want and call it a day?
P.s. I mean zero harm, and best of luck, boo. 🙂click to expand
He is a guy he most likely won't even have a clue that your updates have anything to do with him. Men are not that tuned into stuff like that... At least most aren't.
Honestly, why the game playing? Just be real, be you. Do you really want someone that wants no relationship?
Honestly, why the game playing? Just be real, be you. Do you really want someone that wants no relationship?
Posted by justagirlIf I felt that it was true that he didn't want a relationship I would leave it be because that's what I want. He just told me he was in love with me... The way he snapped at me about the relationship thing told me it was a mood. If it's true then only time will tell as I won't be contacting him... But I don't feel he was genuine. Because after I went off he didn't respond. I did worst last time and he came back. so just time is all I have. And I will be me. Exactly how I do things. And just let things flow. Thanks.
He is a guy he most likely won't even have a clue that your updates have anything to do with him. Men are not that tuned into stuff like that... At least most aren't.
Honestly, why the game playing? Just be real, be you. Do you really want someone that wants no relationship?
Posted by starlover
...and if all fails, remember this ~
*what is meant for you, will not pass you by*
We cannot control anyone at the end of the day, only ourselves
Love it. Thank you
Posted by RainDancerWe have a phone plan together lmPosted by ShaniajamAwe.Posted by RainDancerYou know What? You right! The last time I was me. I posted my quotes like I normally did got busy in work and music... (Made most of them positive and upbeat) and didn't let his mood or posts affect me... When two weeks passed I contacted him and it was like he couldn't wait to hear from me and then told me he was in love with me... The only difference is this time I won't contact him only because even though I was mad I told him how I felt and he didn't respond.,. Instead he went on social media with subliminal messages. One stuck out the most saying I'm not afraid of commitment I just won't be controlled... Somehow he thinks I'm controlling him... I mother him a lot and I buy him things a lot and I think it's just the Taurus in me... So if he does come back this time I will let it flow and not hover him so much. I just want to love him, but maybe I was suffocating.Posted by ShaniajamBut by assuming what he will think, it makes your actions disingenuous.Posted by RainDancerLmaoooo,, I thought about that many times.. However the no contact rule says that's exactly what not to do as your ex will know he has you right where he wants you... In your feelings. Like right now me posting he suspects im sulking which is why the next posts and updates need to be cheery and confusing lol
I think the biggest lump would be to delete your social media. It says the most without saying anything at all.
But that's not what you wanted to hear 😢
By being you, unfaltering, shows more strength and self respect than anything else.
And believe me, I've been there, that's why I deleted my social media, I felt it lacked authenticity. And I want to be known for who I am despite what people think.
No one will define me. That's how idoltry works.
Just be you. Who you are is valuable and deserving of love.
Why not just reach out and say what you want and call it a day?
P.s. I mean zero harm, and best of luck, boo. 🙂
Just never forget who you are.
A person will love you for many reasons and there are more solid route of achieving your end goal.
I wish you luck, bull! I know a lot about bulls. You beasts are so beautiful so don't sell yourself short.
Are there other avenues you can take?click to expand
@raindancer (got cut off). We have a phone plan together lmao. I'm 5 mins away from him. He can bump into each other anytime. He won't be too far. We both know we can reach each other easily. Yet so far apart. Smh. I plan to be myself and just let it flow... You can't help who you love. He's never been in relationships before and all I know is relationships. It's a challenge for both of us. That's why I feel where his fear comes from. Maybe we'll find common ground or maybe we were meant to meet but not be together. Time is all I can count on. Thanks really this helped a lot
Posted by tizianiWow. i mean really wow. Hats off to you. This opened my eyes. I intend to be myself now and just do what I always did. Thank you. No more games. Just me. Amazing thank you.
Think about it like this...
And I'll try and say it in the least patronizing way possible, because I've done social media etc. I'm no less guilty than anyone...
But the more I focus my time on just one specific person, my time is in their hands. If we don't have an accord, that's time I can't get back.
If I just focus on putting out messages than are really me (or the realest version of me possible), when I've done that... you know I've really been surprised at who digs me. And many people come my way. It creates abundance. Which only makes the old faces in my life even more interested in what I have going on.
I rarely post on social media, but when I have done it's usually a mix of someridiculous laughable mistake I've made mixed in with my thoughts on it. I never cry about anything. But I really don't think the whole posting constantly that life is amazing is believable in the slightest. And if I don't believe it when it comes from others, then I'm not going to expect them to believe it if it came from me.
It just comes off tasting like plastic.
Would you believe him if you saw his account had constantly upbeat posts? It's up to you.
sidenote: if you really want to get a guy thinking about you, what works for me is pictures that remind me of small things she USED to do in my company. I never get upset if I know my ex is having sex with some dude, or having the time of her life, who cares? Honestly, good on her. But just thinking about her doing the SMALL things/habits she used to do for me, in someone else's company (even friends) is enough to get nostalgic or illicit some kind of emotional reaction.
I don't know, I find that sort of antic very transparent, and I think he'll be able to figure out what you're doing.
Without knowing the circumstances surrounding your break up, I think you should just be direct with him, if you really want to give the relationship another shot.
At the end of the day, if he wants you back, then he wants you back, and it won't have anything to do with social media. However, if there are issues between you two that cannot be resolved, then you manipulating him into reaching out to you will only produce temporary results, at best.
Without knowing the circumstances surrounding your break up, I think you should just be direct with him, if you really want to give the relationship another shot.
At the end of the day, if he wants you back, then he wants you back, and it won't have anything to do with social media. However, if there are issues between you two that cannot be resolved, then you manipulating him into reaching out to you will only produce temporary results, at best.
Posted by FleshpotYes but why have faith in things falling in the right place, whether that is breaking up or anything else...when we have Facebook?
At the end of the day, if he wants you back, then he wants you back, and it won't have anything to do with social media
Posted by Nemilicioushey now, I like Journey.
lmao - this sentence is making me laugh tears: "I did dump him after he said he doesn't want a relationship but he's a cancer and I know it was his mood... "
Posted by centipedesGreat approach thanks
I don't have time to read the whole thread, but I would honestly advise not trying to do or convey anything via social media. Social media tends to cheapen the intended thoughts communicated. What may be touching in-person, in a letter or even on the phone (not text) is much likelier to induce eye rolls, snide laughter, or be catatonically skimmed over when via social media.
Just ping him a quick cheerful impersonal hello email and ask as a regular person, not an ex, how he's doing.
Posted by channingtatumsneckLol sun and moon... But he started it lol crabby partties
this sounds like a taurus tactic.
Posted by NemiliciousWhat a way toPosted by Shaniajamhow is life, divorced from reality? is it similar to oblivion?Posted by MetaphysicalI did dump him after he said he doesn't want a relationship but he's a cancer and I know it was his mood... And I rode the wave instead of giving him space. He doesn't like titles... He likes flow and I knew that.... I got scared to lose him and pressured him... If he doesn't come back then I learnt my lesson but I'm gonna try. But I won't be contacting him cause the last time we broke up I did though he was happy and told me he was in love with me and drew me in. This time of he doesn't come to me that will be the end.
why do you want him back? did you dump him and now he doesn't care/is doing well?
i hope he draws you back in; fucks with your mind and drops you like a hot -potatoe
cause looks like you love to learn the hard way ....like the donkey you are.
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Be nice to someone already in their feelings.... NEXT!! I already said not to judge which is why I stay away from having female friends. You'll
Be ignored from this point on
Has anyone besides me ever noticed that Taurus females are assholes?
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Ok don't judge me... What updates can I put to lure my ex back eventually.. I know to seem happy and hot and sexy...I got that down pack.. For instance I post a pic of me with inspirational quotes cause I'm an entertainer... But what quotes can I put to Make him think of me? And yes I know it may not work... I'm also keeping busy... But it's time to show my face after being missing and people feeling and thinking I'm down for 5 days now.
Let's hear them and thanks guys! This may help someone else too.