Is it over for Capricorn man ?

Posted by DeadInside

Posted by MissKrabs
people became such a wussies. on one hand everyone is so cool and indifferent, o000h i soooo don't care blabla, and then they explode at completely irrelevant things.

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what now, oh man sorry

Posted by Annie09

Yeah he would literally tell me: “ how could you just let me alone after an argument . You should never give up on me , no matter what “ I told him I need to cool down so I won’t ssy something disrespectful .. and the whole fwb thing . That was his biggest fear that I’m seeing him just for sex . And the reason was cause when I met him , on my tinder profile I wrote : “ looking for some casual fun”. So one night i was at his, we hooked up he fell asleep and I got my period and was bleeding badly and in pain, so I went home didn’t wanted to wake him up cuz he wakes up early for work . Maaan you have no idea .. he was so mad ! Sending me messages : “ so you came here just to f@@ck and leave while I sleep ??” And tantrums lasted for days over this . So I DO NOT get it why he would want me to feel like fwb if that was something he was fearing the most.

Posted by MissKrabs
he sounds very weak. omg, a misunderstanding, i got mad, the woman left me alone and now i'm mad again. life is so hard man!
idk, try explaining him, if he continues to be the drama king, treetrunk him. not really. and yes, it's insulting to suggest ok lets only treetrunk. well treetrunk you!

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he sounds very into you. it's your decision really.

Yeah he would literally tell me: “ how could you just let me alone after an argument . You should never give up on me , no matter what “ I told him I need to cool down so I won’t ssy something disrespectful .. and the whole fwb thing . That was his biggest fear that I’m seeing him just for sex . And the reason was cause when I met him , on my tinder profile I wrote : “ looking for some casual fun”. So one night i was at his, we hooked up he fell asleep and I got my period and was bleeding badly and in pain, so I went home didn’t wanted to wake him up cuz he wakes up early for work . Maaan you have no idea .. he was so mad ! Sending me messages : “ so you came here just to f@@ck and leave while I sleep ??” And tantrums lasted for days over this . So I DO NOT get it why he would want me to feel like fwb if that was something he was fearing the most.

Posted by MissKrabs
he sounds very weak. omg, a misunderstanding, i got mad, the woman left me alone and now i'm mad again. life is so hard man!
idk, try explaining him, if he continues to be the drama king, treetrunk him. not really. and yes, it's insulting to suggest ok lets only treetrunk. well treetrunk you!

people became such a wussies. on one hand everyone is so cool and indifferent, o000h i soooo don't care blabla, and then they explode at completely irrelevant things.

He spent so much time alone , never went out with friends maybe once in three months . I’m just thinking that he s used to being alone so me leaving him alone won’t cause him much discomfort . Is it true caps are loners ? He literally avoided any social event or rather got take away than sitting in a restaurant lol

he sounds very weak. omg, a misunderstanding, i got mad, the woman left me alone and now i'm mad again. life is so hard man!
idk, try explaining him, if he continues to be the drama king, treetrunk him. not really. and yes, it's insulting to suggest ok lets only treetrunk. well treetrunk you!

Whoops .. still struggle with quotations !
What a man if he told you the truth after 2 days .. happy for you .
you know this guy is too young I guess but I know what we’ve had was real. He would leave his phone with me when he went shower or anytime. Never on his phone , I trusted him 100% . But it wasn’t as solid as I thought otherwise he’d be running back right now

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Posted by Annie09

Another thing is that he told me to be fwb ( at least that what he told me )cause after initial 1 week break we’ve had , I reached out and wanted to see him. He said it’s too late I’ve waited too long and he had move on . He basically blamed me and said I’ve caused him too much pain to go through it again ( being in relationship) . He said that week felt like a year to him and went through hell . So if I wanted to keep seeing him he could see me once a week as a fwb. But he doesn’t wanna be in a relationship . I got offended and told him no and walked away and he was crying and running after me when I was leaving . ( guess he didn’t expect me to reject his “ awesome” proposition .. so messed up I know lol )

Posted by AgentP911
I'll assume that your four year age difference has not put you under any consensual age limit. You didn't actually state what age you are a s which way the four years went, which would have been easier, so I'll assume there's nothing detrimental here.

If he truly loved you and if he felt your relationship had a good foundation over the last six months to continue building on then the four year age difference would not have made a blind bit of difference.

Yes, you lied and also kept that lie for so long. Which I think is part of the issue here.

However, that said, this guy appears to have discarded you so easily, far too easily, and to change what you thought was a relationship into a fwb is just not the behaviour of someone who has feelings for you.

What I think has happened is your relationship wasn't quite as rosy as you thought it was. It seems like you had a hell of a lot of arguments between you in such a short space of time. That's not healthy at all. I'm sure there were good times that made you feel fuzzy and warm but, overall, I just don't think this is a match between you.

Add in that despite joining Tinder, neither of you were looking for a relationship. That's pretty much what you found - no relationship.

What a man tho , he came clear after 2 days ..

you know this guy is too young I guess but I know what we’ve had was real. He would leave his phone with me when he went shower or anytime. Never on his phone , I trusted him 100% . But it wasn’t as solid as I thought otherwise he’d be running back


The trouble with things that start with a 'big bang' of wonder is that they rarely last. Sure, great sex and time spent with each other is important but it just sounds like you were both not a match from the start. If he was adamant he wanted a relationship and you only wanted to treetrunk around then it was never going to have legs. It was less noticeable because 'great sex' perhaps covered over the foundations.

My fella of nearly three years lied about his age on his dating profile. He put 37 when he was 44. I was 36. He told me after two days of messaging because he though we were getting on well and he didn't want it to be a problem. It did annoy me but his reasoning was forgivable. At 44, all he was getting was messages from the blue rinse brigade. I'd set my filters to age 32 to 42. If he'd not lied, we would never have met.

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Damn that hurts to hear tbh, but you’re probably right . Just need to accept it

Posted by Chesh
I don't really see anything here worth salvaging, you got a clear case of someone that uses dating sites to treetrunk around.

You caught feelings for him and now he's back peddling. You did the best thing for yourself by walking away from the nonsense.

Truth be told if someone likes you, there's really no questions about it.

And I just remembered he started to be very weird after taking steroids so you think that could mess his feelings up ?? Gym guys- need some advice !!

Posted by Annie09

Another thing is that he told me to be fwb ( at least that what he told me )cause after initial 1 week break we’ve had , I reached out and wanted to see him. He said it’s too late I’ve waited too long and he had move on . He basically blamed me and said I’ve caused him too much pain to go through it again ( being in relationship) . He said that week felt like a year to him and went through hell . So if I wanted to keep seeing him he could see me once a week as a fwb. But he doesn’t wanna be in a relationship . I got offended and told him no and walked away and he was crying and running after me when I was leaving . ( guess he didn’t expect me to reject his “ awesome” proposition .. so messed up I know lol )

Posted by AgentP911
I'll assume that your four year age difference has not put you under any consensual age limit. You didn't actually state what age you are a s which way the four years went, which would have been easier, so I'll assume there's nothing detrimental here.

If he truly loved you and if he felt your relationship had a good foundation over the last six months to continue building on then the four year age difference would not have made a blind bit of difference.

Yes, you lied and also kept that lie for so long. Which I think is part of the issue here.

However, that said, this guy appears to have discarded you so easily, far too easily, and to change what you thought was a relationship into a fwb is just not the behaviour of someone who has feelings for you.

What I think has happened is your relationship wasn't quite as rosy as you thought it was. It seems like you had a hell of a lot of arguments between you in such a short space of time. That's not healthy at all. I'm sure there were good times that made you feel fuzzy and warm but, overall, I just don't think this is a match between you.

Add in that despite joining Tinder, neither of you were looking for a relationship. That's pretty much what you found - no relationship.

I think he was looking for a way out of something he wasn't quite sure of anyway. Sometimes, people come together for a short space of time, be it one month, three months, or six months. Six months is enough time to know if you do or do not wish to continue being with someone. Just because you are together, it doesn't mean 'happily ever after'.

I think you need time to yourself. Don't text or contact him. Each day will become easier. Later on, when you feel ready, you can date again only this time be clear with what you want and take time to date and get to know someone before jumping into bed with them. It will help you be more objective. Objectivity was lacking here.

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The trouble with things that start with a 'big bang' of wonder is that they rarely last. Sure, great sex and time spent with each other is important but it just sounds like you were both not a match from the start. If he was adamant he wanted a relationship and you only wanted to treetrunk around then it was never going to have legs. It was less noticeable because 'great sex' perhaps covered over the foundations.

My fella of nearly three years lied about his age on his dating profile. He put 37 when he was 44. I was 36. He told me after two days of messaging because he though we were getting on well and he didn't want it to be a problem. It did annoy me but his reasoning was forgivable. At 44, all he was getting was messages from the blue rinse brigade. I'd set my filters to age 32 to 42. If he'd not lied, we would never have met.

m too old for him

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Posted by DeadInside

Posted by starlord
Yeah I'm super curios about why 4 years matters so much? Will it make you underage or much older or what? And why'd you lie in the first place?

lol it remind me one of my taurus ex, we broke up for the same reason

That’s lame
Was she older?

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Another thing is that he told me to be fwb ( at least that what he told me )cause after initial 1 week break we’ve had , I reached out and wanted to see him. He said it’s too late I’ve waited too long and he had move on . He basically blamed me and said I’ve caused him too much pain to go through it again ( being in relationship) . He said that week felt like a year to him and went through hell . So if I wanted to keep seeing him he could see me once a week as a fwb. But he doesn’t wanna be in a relationship . I got offended and told him no and walked away and he was crying and running after me when I was leaving . ( guess he didn’t expect me to reject his “ awesome” proposition .. so messed up I know lol )

Posted by AgentP911
I'll assume that your four year age difference has not put you under any consensual age limit. You didn't actually state what age you are a s which way the four years went, which would have been easier, so I'll assume there's nothing detrimental here.

If he truly loved you and if he felt your relationship had a good foundation over the last six months to continue building on then the four year age difference would not have made a blind bit of difference.

Yes, you lied and also kept that lie for so long. Which I think is part of the issue here.

However, that said, this guy appears to have discarded you so easily, far too easily, and to change what you thought was a relationship into a fwb is just not the behaviour of someone who has feelings for you.

What I think has happened is your relationship wasn't quite as rosy as you thought it was. It seems like you had a hell of a lot of arguments between you in such a short space of time. That's not healthy at all. I'm sure there were good times that made you feel fuzzy and warm but, overall, I just don't think this is a match between you.

Add in that despite joining Tinder, neither of you were looking for a relationship. That's pretty much what you found - no relationship.

I think he was looking for a way out of something he wasn't quite sure of anyway. Sometimes, people come together for a short space of time, be it one month, three months, or six months. Six months is enough time to know if you do or do not wish to continue being with someone. Just because you are together, it doesn't mean 'happily ever after'.

I think you need time to yourself. Don't text or contact him. Each day will become easier. Later on, when you feel ready, you can date again only this time be clear with what you want and take time to date and get to know someone before jumping into bed with them. It will help you be more objective. Objectivity was lacking here.

��m older. he’s early 20s

Posted by DeadInside

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Posted by starlord
Yeah I'm super curios about why 4 years matters so much? Will it make you underage or much older or what? And why'd you lie in the first place?

lol it remind me one of my taurus ex, we broke up for the same reason

That’s lame
Was she older?

no

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Posted by AgentP911
I'll assume that your four year age difference has not put you under any consensual age limit. You didn't actually state what age you are a s which way the four years went, which would have been easier, so I'll assume there's nothing detrimental here.

If he truly loved you and if he felt your relationship had a good foundation over the last six months to continue building on then the four year age difference would not have made a blind bit of difference.

Yes, you lied and also kept that lie for so long. Which I think is part of the issue here.

However, that said, this guy appears to have discarded you so easily, far too easily, and to change what you thought was a relationship into a fwb is just not the behaviour of someone who has feelings for you.

What I think has happened is your relationship wasn't quite as rosy as you thought it was. It seems like you had a hell of a lot of arguments between you in such a short space of time. That's not healthy at all. I'm sure there were good times that made you feel fuzzy and warm but, overall, I just don't think this is a match between you.

Add in that despite joining Tinder, neither of you were looking for a relationship. That's pretty much what you found - no relationship.

I think he was looking for a way out of something he wasn't quite sure of anyway. Sometimes, people come together for a short space of time, be it one month, three months, or six months. Six months is enough time to know if you do or do not wish to continue being with someone. Just because you are together, it doesn't mean 'happily ever after'.

I think you need time to yourself. Don't text or contact him. Each day will become easier. Later on, when you feel ready, you can date again only this time be clear with what you want and take time to date and get to know someone before jumping into bed with them. It will help you be more objective. Objectivity was lacking here

Yes we are legal , he’s younger than me , I was just looking for younger guy for fun at the beginning 🤭that’s why I haven’t told him about my real age . I gotta say that the first 5 months together were beautiful and fairytale like . Amazing sex , romance , spend a loooot of time together almost every second day . It went downhill the last month before we split up . He told me that his last relationship ended in very similar way 3 years ago, arguing a lot and he just ended cause he couldn’t handle arguing. So I guess it’s a pattern . Well my bad I’ve lied i have definitely contributed to the break up with lies and not wanting to commit at the beginning . He wanted relationship from the beginning and was very clear about it . But guess once it got serious he might panic. Cause he’s still young . ( early 20’s)
Interesting thing is that after our first serious argument ( before the actual break up, we haven’t spoke to each other for a week) I’ve reached out first and he blamed me how could I just not try to fix it in one week. And kept saying it was too late , I’ve waited too long ...and how could I let it be for so long . Very confusing
Guess you’re right sometimes we are with people for only few months to learn a lesson.