No Contact Rule - Does it really work?

Does the no contact rule actually work? If we all the sudden mysteriously disappear, wait a good amount of time before w
female
"A Gemini's eyes never lie, even when their lips do. If you want to know if the
Does the no contact rule actually work? If we all the sudden mysteriously disappear, wait a good amount of time before we text or call you back, or even not pick up. I've been hearing that this does work, especially for us girls that are always available and we suddenly are gone.

Guys - Has this ever worked on you?

Girls - Have you used this and it actually worked?
"thrill seeking dare devil who loves to live on the edge.... not really, but I
Is this an actual rule?

Maybe it is like the motorcycle helmet law? Seems obvious to some, but we have to make it a Rule just in case someone doesn't get it.

Just don't contact them.
I don't think it does...

I was just reading some quotes from "real men on the street" whom were interviewed and they said, "Play it too cool and evasive and we'll think you are not interested and we won't call"

That's it, it can come off as "not interested"

Or after a breakup maybe the guy/girl wants to work it out...with the "no contact" thing it can lead to mis-understandings. The guy/girl may not be contacting out of fear too...too scared to contact.

The last person I was seeing had texted me at work on Monday after the prev Friday when I had told him I would call him when I got home Friday night, it was too late, so I let it go all weekend. I was trying to be "non available, not needy and just playing it cool"
Well his text said, "You must have had too much of a good time Friday night, I haven't heard from you since"

You could say this idea above was actually working and it made him wonder about me, but it seems it just brought out insecurities.

female
"A Gemini's eyes never lie, even when their lips do. If you want to know if the
Actually we never were together
It's just I'm too available for him. I like him, but I think I'm around too much.
female
Posted by sunshine222
I don't think it does...

I was just reading some quotes from "real men on the street" whom were interviewed and they said, "Play it too cool and evasive and we'll think you are not interested and we won't call"

That's it, it can come off as "not interested"




Exactly. That's something I had a problem with until I had to check myself. It's just my character. I can't call someone all the time because I'd grow weary of talking to them to often, doesn't mean I'm not interested, I'm just interested in other things too, lol. But with someone I'm really feeling, I initiate more. I realize how cool & collective behavior can translate into "I'm just not that into you". Lesson learned! .
34 years old
sun: aries ascendant: gemini moon: libra venus: taurus mars: ar
YES!
33 years old female from Houston, TX
"Gemini Sun, Aries Moon ?? Sun Gemini 15.28
I think that this is difficult with all the modern technology that MAKES us always reachable. I always get upset when I see a guy friend will sit with his phone next to his plate at dinner and then tell me.... I'm not going to text her back right away, I wanna leave her hanging for a little while.

I'm always thinking..... ummn, she knows you are CONSTANTLY on your phone too. Idiot.

For me, if someone texts me I'll usually respond within the hour, but if I want be less available (or if I'm truly busy which I try to mostly always be with work and friends and such) to someone I'll just let them know I'm happy to hear from them, but I'm super busy and I'll ask them to call me later. When starting up something new I don't like to do a lot of texting... I need to hear their voice.

Being available by text and phone (with the invention of cell phones) kinda happens. I mean... you ARE always available.

However, making sure you are not to available to a guy is where not jumping and running to see him comes in. I don't agree to last minute dates. I don't want to be your after thought.

In this day and age, I find that a lot of guys (in Houston at least) need a little positive reinforcement. The trick to being unavailable is not being rude about it, always being sweet.

Here's an example of how I'd respond to texts when I'm just getting started with someone....

"Hey you, I'm so happy to hear from you! I'm running around with work and have something (I never say what it is I'm doing, leave that open for their imagination) going on tonight. No rest for the weary! Why don't you call me tomorrow evening? Talk soon!"
female
Posted by Xin
Actually we never were together
It's just I'm too available for him. I like him, but I think I'm around too much.


That can get boring fast. You should NEVER, I repeat NEVER be toooooo available for a guy. Even if you are head over treetrunking heels in love. He'd never respect you. You should always make him wonder about you. You're a Gem, you know better than that! Lol.
female from london, united kingdom
"music is my religion
Posted by RealTalk
Posted by Xin
Actually we never were together
It's just I'm too available for him. I like him, but I think I'm around too much.


You should NEVER, I repeat NEVER be toooooo available for a guy. Even if you are head over treetrunking heels in love. He'd never respect you. You should always make him wonder about you.
click to expand


i agree. it's not like i believe in dating rules but this is common sense. most people place a higher value on what's hard to obtain. kinda superficial, but true. look at all those colossal waiting lists for new products out. people generally like what's exclusive.

and not too far the other way, either. you don't have to sit there screening calls and having a 2hr-textback-rule. when you're honest about your intentions, everything gets clearer. if you entertain or secretly like 'the chase', then by all means carry on. just don't complain when they're not dancing to your tune
female from london, united kingdom
"music is my religion
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
I think that this is difficult with all the modern technology that MAKES us always reachable. I always get upset when I see a guy friend will sit with his phone next to his plate at dinner and then tell me.... I'm not going to text her back right away, I wanna leave her hanging for a little while.

I'm always thinking..... ummn, she knows you are CONSTANTLY on your phone too. Idiot.


Being available by text and phone (with the invention of cell phones) kinda happens. I mean... you ARE always available.

However, making sure you are not to available to a guy is where not jumping and running to see him comes in. I don't agree to last minute dates. I don't want to be your after thought.



+1 exaaaactly
58 years old female
Cancer Moon in 12th house trines Neptune

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

58 years old female
Cancer Moon in 12th house trines Neptune
Interesting to see who all the manipulators are .... they play the man to seek attention.
female
"A Gemini's eyes never lie, even when their lips do. If you want to know if the
Hey look first off P, every post I've seen coming from you has either been 1. hidden or 2. something negative to say. It's not about manipulation its about making things fair. Men do this all the time. So I am personally coming out and asking a question, it's not about who is manipulating who. If that is your idea then so be it, but Id prefer not to make my posts about negativity.
female
Posted by nimbue
Posted by RealTalk
Posted by Xin
Actually we never were together
It's just I'm too available for him. I like him, but I think I'm around too much.


You should NEVER, I repeat NEVER be toooooo available for a guy. Even if you are head over treetrunking heels in love. He'd never respect you. You should always make him wonder about you.


i agree. it's not like i believe in dating rules but this is common sense. most people place a higher value on what's hard to obtain. kinda superficial, but true. look at all those colossal waiting lists for new products out. people generally like what's exclusive.

and not too far the other way, either. you don't have to sit there screening calls and having a 2hr-textback-rule. when you're honest about your intentions, everything gets clearer. if you entertain or secretly like 'the chase', then by all means carry on. just don't complain when they're not dancing to your tune
click to expand


No, that 2hr text butter is ridiculous. If I want to text back right away I will, & if I'm busy I'll respond later or just honestly forget to, & respond the next day. Please, I don't give a damn what people want to call it. Manipulation, games, bullbutter, hell I'll own that. AND? It is COMMON SENSE. You should never give yourself away like that to ANY man. Hmph, it's a sure way to become a doormat & a fool.
female
Posted by P-Angel
Interesting to see who all the manipulators are .... they play the man to seek attention.


Call it whatever the hell you want. You seeked attention from the man & HE PLAYED YOU.
More pages:

Recent Topics

I've been agonizing over whether it'll happen or not for days! And he made my BDay the happiest day so far!!! 👀 👄 And I don't like to be so happy - so please come say something nasty so I can stop smiling like an idiot! Anyone? I hear footst
fall in love with the idea of someone rather than who the real person is?
And happy as an ass of whoever... All who love me...fess up! I know you want to! I love you much! ❤️💗
Do you run into the same problems with people over and over again? Do you hear people often complaining about certain traits you have? Are you aware of it, or is it something you do subconsciously, becaue it is part of who you are? Would you change it if
Hellow fellow Pisceans is it just me or can you not stand disingenuine people? Most of my close friends have been Pisceans and the one thing I can honestly say compared to other people I've been friends with is that we were pretty much straightforwa
Which DXP user spends the most time on DXP...?! Please nominate below ...
here is a list online, that shows a person's character. however i think that many people just can't live up to this kind of thing...and we're not all perfect for sure.. but there are potentials to see/how a person's character can be scary.. look at
I met this libra guy with venus/mercury in libra and mars/pluto in scorpio. My first impression of him was that he was more on the shy/quiet side so I thought he has a scorpio, pisces or taurus rising but apparently he is not as shy as I thought he was. J
Did Pisces get stuck with the wimpy twin fish image and not the twin ichthyocentaurs? https://indyfish.files.wordpress.com/2015/02/triton-statue-centaure.png
any member. No holds barred, bro. feel free to attack their tier... just keep it funny and don't start fighting for real. fake fighting is fine tho.
just thought I make a thread for this question because I really like everybodys point of view on this subject. And you can be firm and honest with me. I won't bite. it's your opinion that matters. I won't judge you for it nor will I disagree with your opi
So, I'm getting my hair cut on my birthday. How the hell do I explain (even with pictures) to the hairdresser how to cut my hair to the same way Bon Jovi used to wear it back in the 80s. It's not a traditional mullet. It's like it progresses with each