SG, true love is patience, understanding & mutual respect.
It is possible that he is struggling to find a balance between maintaining his independence and being in a relationship.
If it is true love, your patience and strength will see this relationship through (maintaining the balance).
LostPisces, is right ... it is very important to keep the communication lines open. He needs to feel "safe" sharing his feelings with you. For most men and some women, it is not easy tapping into or even understanding the emotions within. Your intellect is high and i believe you are a girl who can use both your mind and your heart to get to the root of an issue. Your Virgo may need a little help understanding where he is at.
When or how to decide if it is or it isn't true love ... you will just know. No one can tell you. Don't be afraid to listen to heart.
You ask him, love is about talking about everything. Humm virgo...maybe he will try to escape the question. Dont be unsure of things, you have to make things clear Use your power, you have it, dont be afraid
For what I know from my love, they will question until they are certain, not steping into insecure terrain, or someone who hurts, or will be hurted (again), or even hurt. I understand her, in this world there is many deceptions, broken hearts, evil.
But just rest a while, life is too short, enjoy love...dont quit, you have potential, I dont forget your help scopiogoat, and is one thing what caps do, they help alot, with heart, no mind enters here.
SG, no, its not your "supreme stupidity" as you put it ... you are human and besides that, true love is also about patience.
If he is a runner, you have to (with his help) assess what he is running from. If he is afraid of being hurt, then that is where your patience and understanding kicks in to assist in maintaining the "balance". If he is running because he is not sure how he feels about you, then you have to question if what you too have is "true love". True love does not question!
And not to "toot your horn" too much (haha), but i have read some of your other comments in other threads and, from what i have read you have a lot of valuable insight which i have learned from and you are very skilled at articulating your thoughts.
SG, you are absolutely right about humans, however, i don't believe my description is unrealistic. Also, thank you very much for your compliment. :-) I've thought the same about you.
In addition to my comments above, I believe that when True Love is found a balance is created. The scale may tilt from one side to the other, but if a balance can not be maintained or it leans more to one side, then was it really True Love? Food for thought!
Thats it Sherob, I couldnt explain better, all that is true for me, specially enjoying being together, the inpiration, the growing and the working as team with no effort, its natural and brings joy to life.
Maybe i would describe it by saying your mind, body & souls are connected. You feel strong passion/desire and you feel as one. Like no one else in the world matters except the two of you. You both believe in each other, enjoy being together, inspire and stimulate each other and assist in your growth and development both as a couple and as individuals. You are a "well oiled team" with romantic perks!
I've felt that way for a man. But, eventually, I blew it off because it wasn't fully reciprocal...(He felt lust and friendship for me, I know that, but he told me that he did not love me romantically)...And because feelings/actions were missing from the relationship, I suppose, it wasn't true love.
But, yes, I felt a lot of what you've both described for him.
So, would you say the feeling of true love is like loving yourself then? That you've found true love when you've found the one who loves you like you love them and/or loves you the way in which you would give yourself the very best?...
Ocean, i do believe True Love is precious and rare as you stated. When you find it, treat with respect, and it will be forever.
To describe what it feels like, really has me stumped because the feeling will be different for different people. In my experience, first of all, it is not jealousy. True love is when you can each be yourselves independently but feel more complete when together. It is an acceptance of each other on every level, and a natural willingness to always be supportive. Your minds are intuitively connected. You can almost feel in your heart when the other person is thinking of you, even if they are not any where near you. Your heart aches when you are forced to be apart and thoughts of him/her are always with you. True love is full of passion and desire.
Ocean, in simple ways its care, a care that is forever the same. The understanding, the sharing of all things, the happiness, the joy.. difficult to explain, but I want to do all for her, not obligated, but I feel what she feels, so I feel very good.
I was like that MercInAries, still are, but I found the love of my life. I dont have a successful life, still finishing univ.....but I work full time too (late in society time), but going good. So I hope she doesnt leave me because of that